Yep, I’ve Been Terrified to Share My Message Too!

I’ve worked with people for years, encouraging them to share their messages. I’ve promoted so many wonderful people  and seen the greatness in so many. Yet, I also noticed that a lot of people will do anything and everything but share their messages.

I had a fair idea of why they weren’t sharing — fear, self-doubt, and overwhelm. Yet, this paralyzation had me stumped. Of course, it was easy for me to be stumped because I didn’t have a burning message to share in those days. I thought my message was that YOU have a message. That’s a safe position to be — telling other people what to do when you haven’t really done it yourself.

Then everything changed when I realized I had my own message. Eight months after discovering it, life kicked me out of the nest and gave me the impetus to fully commit to this new path. As I’ve taken this flying leap, I now know WHY people are paralyzed! It’s downright terrifying!

Ironic, it’s a main phase of the Light Bearer process that I’ve been teaching for the last 3 years — you will come to the point where you’re tested on the very thing you’re teaching. 

I’m realizing that the paralyzation comes from mad, scrambling, short-circuiting thought patterns. Some days I’m getting a handle on my message and how to share it, and the next it’s slipped like sand through my fingers. Doubts and fears have taken its place. One step forward, two steps back. It’s crazy the things that go through your head when you set out to share the message you’re here to share. Here’s some of the nonsense that’s been running through my mind…

– If I start sharing, then I’m giving my good stuff away and then what will I have to share? What if I don’t have more to share later? What if this is all there is? What if I share it, that’s all I have to say and I’m done and I gave it all away? Now what?

– What if that’s all there is to me? I put it out, I’ve said it, and I’m done, and I have no other purpose in life. I’m just done.

– What if I share it and people don’t respond to it. I’m here to share a message that no one cares about. Of course, then, that means they don’t care about me. It becomes personal —  because my message doesn’t matter, I don’t matter.

– If I pour my heart and soul into this – give it my all and really do it and it falls flat, then what is there left to me? A J.O.B. doing something that bores me for the rest of my life. As long as I’m “working toward” sharing my message, then I have hope and something to look forward to. But if I actually do it, share it, give it my all, and it falls flat, then I am the ultimate failure.

– It’s safer to hold back some because then you have an excuse for why you didn’t succeed – it’s not about you and your message anymore then.

– What if my message is so complicated no one gets it? What if it’s too hard to explain, to quantify; and the learning curve takes so long that I go down in financial ruins waiting for people to “get it.”

– What if I throw myself 100% into this and it’s all a mistake. I’ve burned my bridges, now what?

– What if this is all pride and I’m being arrogant to think I have a message that is this important, but really it’s all just a lie.

– Pride goes before a fall. To think I have this big message is just me being full of myself. Risking everything for it is just pride, and I’m going to splat onto the concrete.

– What if I succeed? There’s a lot of responsibility with that, and I’m not ready to take on that responsibility.

– If I succeed, I give up the freedom to hide and play small. And it’s feels safe to play small.

After getting all those crazy thoughts out of my head and down in written form, I decided to work through each one and craft truth statements to counteract them. I’ve installed these in myself. If they apply to you, let’s install them for you too!

– I let go of scarcity thinking around my message. I have a lifetime of wisdom to share about it.

The more I share about my message, the more comes and the richer and deeper it becomes.

I’m here to share a message that people will respond to, be transformed by. I let go of the false belief that God would send me to this planet to share a message that is irrelevant.

I let go of connecting my value to my message. I let go of connecting my value to other people’s opinions.

The fact that I exist makes me priceless and of infinite value.

– I make money from my message. All of creation supports me as I live on purpose. I tap into the greatest levels of abundance as I live true to myself and what I’m here to do on the earth.

– I let go of fear of failure. I let go of the need to hold a part of myself back.

All of creation is conspiring to help me share my message in a way that resonates with people and they are drawn to it.

– All of creation is orchestrating my success.

– My message can be conveyed with clarity and simplicity, yet with a depth and richness that I can study and expound upon for a lifetime.

– It’s in my highest good to fully commit to my message.

– It’s safe to give it my all.

– I let go of the need to play small. It is safer for me to play full out and live large.

– I let go of the fear of pride. I release the notion that I would have a great desire to share a message that would cause my demise.

– I trust that I will be comfortable with any responsibilities associated with success.

– I trust that I will be prepared and strengthened for everything I’m called upon to do as I live my purpose.

– I trust that this is a joyous journey and that I enjoy the responsibilities and activities associated with success in living my purpose and sharing my message.

I hope these affirmations are helpful for you and that you can internalize them for yourself. They’re true for you too! Accept them, you have something to do that only you can. We need you. The world needs you. Rise to your calling and let your light shine!

About Marnie Pehrson Kuhns

Marnie Pehrson Kuhns is a Certified SimplyAlign Practitioner™ who uses music and creativity to mentor you past barriers, fears and doubts to discover, create, align with, and deliver your soul’s song (the mission, message or purpose you are on this earth to live). Marnie is a best-selling author with 31 fiction and nonfiction titles. If you'd like Marnie and her husband Dave to work with you personally on Your Great Reinvention, get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.