Gatlinburg, Smokey Mountains

Unplugging can mean a lot of things. It can mean turning off the TV, the computer, the cell phones, the video games and the ipods. That can be tough to do in this day and age. I’m certainly not advocating abandoning all the technology at our fingertips. I believe technology can be used to bring a lot of good to the world.

But, every once in a while, it really does pay to unplug. Recently I spent a week in the Smokey Mountains with my family followed by another week at the foothills of the Uinta Mountains in Oakley, UT for a spiritual workshop. Over these two weeks I didn’t work, and I spent the bare minimum of time online. My assistant checked my emails. I turned off my cell phone for most of the 2nd week and only took about 5-10 minutes each day to post some photos to Facebook so my friends and family could catch a glimpse of the beauty I was enjoying.

The rest of the time I relaxed in nature and connected with real people in the “real world” offline. When I came back to work, the perspective I gained was incredible. Suddenly I could see the virtual world for what

Knowing Your Light Workshop

it was — virtual! It isn’t real. You can’t touch it, feel it, or experience it fully. Many of us get so caught up in technology that we lose our connection with others. We begin to believe that that world is all that matters. But it isn’t real!

So I have two baby-steps into unplugging:

  • First take at least one day a week and unplug from work. Stay off the computer, forget the email and rest your brain a bit. No working for that one day a week.
  • Second, take at least 20 minutes each day to connect with nature. Go for a walk, dig in the dirt, go for a drive and enjoy the view, etc.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

My Journey out of Work-a-holism

Up until 2000, I ate, drank and dreamed business. I didn’t know who I was apart from my work. When I thought about selling my business or not working, I felt a panic seize me. I didn’t know who I was outside of it. What would I do with my time? What would engage my interest? Sure, I had five children at that time, but it didn’t occur to me that I could be happy just spending time with them. I wanted MORE.

And then I met a coach who set me on a different journey — away from the 70-hour-a-week work-a-holism to becoming someone who embraces and enjoys life.  Here’s what she taught me to do:

“Put time for yourself on your ‘to do list.’ Pat yourself on the back when you take time to enjoy your life, when you take time off work to relax, or when you spend time with your family. You’ve just accomplished something important.”

This shift in thinking — where taking time off was an item on a to-do list — was enough to set me on the path of recovery.

The second thing that came out of this coaching relationship was a passion for exploring my spirituality. I started SheLovesGod.com in 2000 as a result and I began exploring and expressing a part of me that didn’t revolve around work.

Why am I just now starting a blog about this?

  • First, I think there’s a lot of over-achiever women like me who could benefit from my story.
  • Second, I’m still on this journey! I’m still learning and recovering!

It’s not that I struggle so much with work-a-holism, as much as I’m rediscovering who I am now that work isn’t consuming my life.

When you spend years figuring out how to build a business, supporting a family, and keeping everyone else happy, it’s easy to lose yourself along the way. You forget who you are and what makes you happy.  If it’s not practical, then you don’t do it. If it doesn’t serve some higher objective, you feel like you’re wasting your time.

In the end, you can come to this place where you’ve delegated and automated so much that your business runs itself and then you think “now what?”  Rather than dive into some new project (which we are so prone to do as work-a-holics), I’m recommending something radical.

I’m recommending exploring the world around you, fully engaging in life, unplugging from the rat race and simply being YOU! In the end your deeds, accomplishments and awards will not be weighed on a scale to see if you’ve piled up enough brownie points. It is you who will be weighed in the balance — it’s your soul, your being, and what you’ve become that matters.

If you get to the end of life with a truckload of itemized checklists and goals crossed off, but you don’t know who you are, what does it matter? If you haven’t found what brings joy and peace to your soul, what’s the point?

So, all of you high-achiever women out there (and men too), come along with me on this journey. Let’s unplug together. I’ll be documenting my journey and I’d love for you to share yours too!

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.