Pet Peeve: It’s Never About the Money Or the Time

Pet Peeve: When experts say, “It’s never about the money or the time.” 

In some seasons of your life you have so many external demands on your time/money that you can’t do the things you really want to do. Children need your attention, elderly parents need caring for, demanding jobs consume hours, financial calamities strike.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t save up the money or that you can’t better use small snippets of time to work toward the thing you desire. You may not have the money or the time to invest in that expert’s product right now, but each day you can do some small thing toward the outcome you’re seeking.

Success is in the small daily actions… 10 minutes reading an educational book, $5 saved toward your dream, a 15-minute walk to take care of your body, 15 minutes learning something new, etc. “By small and simple things are great things brought to pass.”

If you’re really in a tight spot, don’t let any “expert” shame you. Be honest with yourself and do what you can now with the time/money you do have. “Redeem the time” … use those small snippets to invest in your dream.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Beware of the First Thing That Comes Along

When one begins creating a better life, she must often let go of what isn’t working in order to make room for what will. But beware of the first or second thing that comes along to fill the void.

If you’ve studied the power of thought on your life’s circumstances, you know to envision how your ideal life will look, feel and be. You visualize it with such certainty it feels almost tangible to you, an eventuality, not just a hope or dream for the future. It’s a legitimate creation waiting to be delivered in the timeline of your life. You believe that there’s this point in the future where everything is destined to fall into place in a magical, perfect way. It’s like having placed an order on Amazon and awaiting the eventual delivery of your package.

You’re convinced it’s just around the corner, this magical life. You look around and you see few indications of it in reality, yet you know deep in your heart that it exists, that it’s waiting for you. You’re not really sure what the wait is about, but you keep holding hope.

Then something or someone comes along that looks like a piece to your vision. This thing, person or opportunity seems to fit so nicely into your picture, that you impulsively grab hold of it and welcome it into your life. In your zealousness to inherit your dream, you make compromises. You fill in gaps with your imagination – making this person, thing, or opportunity more than it really is.

You settle for less than you originally desired because this thing that came along is 70% or 80% of what you’re looking for. Hopefully, things won’t work out. That person or thing will leave your life. Yes, that exit can be painful. Yet, it would be better for things not to work out than for you to settle long term for that which is less than you desire.

I have discovered that the first thing that comes along is rarely “it.” The second thing that comes along probably isn’t “it” either.

Why, when you’ve been so clear in your vision, do you keep attracting things that are “close but no cigar?” I believe it happens for at least two reasons:

1)      You’re not as clear as you thought you were, and this is a chance to clarify further. Until you “try on” a few possibilities, you don’t really know what you want. As you do, you further define what you’re looking for and what you won’t settle for.

2)      There’s something in the situation you need to learn about yourself. You need to grow some more.

When you formulate a big dream, you are not the person capable of receiving that dream – at least not yet. You have to grow into the dream. If you were ready for it at inception, you’d already have it. The dream wouldn’t feel so “big,” rather it would feel more like a next step.

you didn't come this far or fight this hard to settleThis process of growing into a dream takes time and experience learning about ourselves and what needs to change in us. Sometimes the things or people that come our way aren’t part of our dream, but part of our “becoming process.” They are key ingredients in our personal growth journey that make us capable of receiving the ultimate vision.

Think twice before you settle for the first or second thing that comes along. Don’t settle. But don’t be afraid to tweak and change your vision. There could be something even better for you, and it may look different than you originally envisioned.

There is a difference between fine tuning your vision and settling. If you find yourself saying, “I’m willing to put up with this in order to get that,” note the red flag. Don’t build things into your life that you have to “put up with.” Sure, no one’s perfect; everyone has flaws. No situation is ideal.  But beware of times when you know going in that you’re going to have to “put up with something.”  It’s a sign you’re settling. Learn what you need to from this situation, but hold out for a better fit.

You didn’t come this far or fight this hard to settle.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

God Rejoices In Your Creations

One of my clients, Angie Christensen, posted this on Facebook today, and with her permission I post it here. I think it’s incredibly insightful and something everyone marketing their expertise online would do well to understand:

“In recovering from my business identity crisis this week, I learned something about creating with God. I learned that I have truly created something, because it is purely me. 100%. It is a true reflection of my experiences, knowledge, impressions, and personality.

“It wasn’t made to please someone, but is a genuine expression of who I am. It couldn’t have come from anyone else on the planet. God loves that! I gave life to something that didn’t exist anywhere in the universe before and is an extension of who I am.

“Like any parent, He celebrates that and wants to hang my creation on His fridge, because it is mine and I am His. No matter what else happens, the fact that I learned to truly create will stand, and He smiles with joy at that. That perspective is also helping me look at others’ creations in a whole new light!”

Check out Angie’s creation at www.SimplyDivineEating.com and join her Wednesday for her free class on Healthy Kids’ Lunches.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

The Whispered Dream

Your dreams whisper to you … heed their call and co-create them with God. This is an extemporaneous piano creation I recorded tonight and set to some of my photography. I decided to also add some affirmations to support you in your dreams. I hope you enjoy it!

If having a joyful life of influence is part of your big vision, I’d love to support you in it

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Co-Creating with God: When Something Feels Off

A few months ago I was collaborating with someone on a fun project. This was no ordinary project. It was one that could affect the trajectory of my life. We were excited and had lots of energy and passion about the idea. My fellow collaborator and I could see the end quite vividly. We began brainstorming and having conversations about the details and were jazzed about the possibilities. Honestly, we were having a blast. I hadn’t had so much fun in years. We were both so engaged with the idea that we barreled forward like a freight train.

Yet, in the back of my mind, occasionally there would be a niggling doubt, a feeling like perhaps this wasn’t the ideal person for me to be working with on such a project. There was nothing wrong with the person that I could see, but if I was going to collaborate on this level, there needed to be a lot of compatibility. Something just felt off. But I pushed that aside because there was so much that was right. We could see and visualize so many possibilities together, that I ran forward, fueled by my enthusiasm.

Then one day, we hit a little snag in our plans — nothing big, just a bit of a disappointment. We both stepped back from the situation and from our interactions with each other. It took me no more than 24 hours of stepping back to realize that this collaboration wasn’t going to work. I experienced an overwhelming knowing that this wasn’t the right project, the right person, or the right time. The interesting thing is, the other person received the same clarity of insight, and we amicably went our separate ways.

I asked myself, “How could we both be so engaged, interested and excited about something and then lose interest literally overnight?” I think sometimes our own emotions and passions become so intense that hearing the subtle whispering of the Spirit is like trying to taste a piece of bread while eating a jalapeño.

For me, in this experience, the whispering of the Spirit sounded like occasional doubts, uncertainties, or a feeling that I was missing some important information. In my excitement for the project, I had begun filling in pieces to the puzzle with my own imagination, without waiting to fill them in with facts or a better understanding of my collaborative partner. I was making a lot of assumptions, but deep down, my spirit knew I was filing in gaps. My spirit knew there were compatibility issues that would cause us problems down the road.

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Stop eating the jalapeño long enough to taste the realities of the bread. When you do, you’ll either decide you’re on the right track or it will become obvious that you aren’t.

What did I learn from this situation? Lots of things. The lesson I’d like to emphasize here is the power and perspective obtained by stepping back from a situation. If you’re heading down a road that feels fun and exciting but you have some reservations, step back. Stop eating the jalapeño long enough to taste the realities of the bread.  When you do, you’ll either decide you’re on the right track or it will become obvious that you aren’t.

Thank heavens the creative process isn’t instantaneous. If it was, we’d all create a lot of things we really don’t want in life!

Honestly, in my situation, I believe God intervened. He wasn’t going to let me make a decision that would adversely affect the trajectory of my life. Stay aligned with God; listen to the little warning signals. Pay attention to the counsel of friends who love you and see things you can’t see. Step back, take your time. There is no hurry on the creative plain.

Have you ever had a similar experience with stepping back?

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Co-Creating with God: When Things Aren’t Working

Have you ever felt a burst of enlightenment, a feeling of certainty that you need to travel a different path or pursue a particular goal? As you embark on your journey toward your goal, things start to fall apart. You meet one obstacle after another. You begin to doubt whether you heard right. Maybe you made a mistake.

Was it really a mistake? Probably not. The thing is, any big goal or dream requires something of you. If you were currently capable of receiving the objective, you would already have it in your possession. Because it’s something “out there,” it’s going to require some kind of adaptation or evolution on your part. A realignment of actions, thoughts, perceptions, energy or habits is required in order to receive.

This means there are going to be challenges or hurdles. You’ll need to flex muscles you haven’t used before. You may need to develop skills you don’t currently possess. Or it may require a different level of thinking than you’ve had in the past.

All of this feels like you’re being blocked or told that you’re going the wrong direction. This may not be the case at all. If it felt right when you prayed about it and felt peace about it, most likely it is still right. Rather than assume you’re on the wrong path, ask yourself a different set of questions. Try some of these:

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  • What would I do now that I wouldn’t have been willing to do before?
  • What am I resisting? What if that is the very thing I need to do?
  • What new way of thinking is this causing me to adopt?
  • What if all of this is for a reason?
  • If I look at this through the eyes of a loving heavenly Parent who is trying to help me reach my highest soul fulfillment, what do I see?
  • What would I do if I wasn’t afraid?
  • What would I do if I let go of what other people think of me?
  • What would I feel and do if I trusted God completely and knew that all of this was going to work out for my highest good?
  • If I could create my ideal solution to this challenge, what it be? What would it look like? Feel like? Describe it in detail. Now, create it! Think it. Speak it. Move forward with whatever you know to do on it.

Act where and how you know to act, even if those steps are tiny. Forward movement, even if in baby steps, opens doors of opportunity.

What questions have you found helpful to ask yourself or God when things aren’t working as you expected them to?

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Make Your Life Simpler: Co-Create with God

I once knew a woman who was very driven to succeed in her network marketing business. She decided to devote the next three years of her life to her success. She worked all hours of the day and night and insisted her team do the same. If her team didn’t attend sales meetings until 3am, she’d refuse to support them anymore. She decided she would put everything but her business pursuits on hold for three years. Then she’d retire. She was goal driven and focused, and she knew she would succeed.

Her husband and her children took a backseat to her goal of success. She was excessively hard on her team and even began cutting corners and violating ethics to ensure she was a top performer (or appeared to be). By the end of the three years, she was divorced, had lost custody of her children, and lost her business due to unethical dealings. In fact, her name was completely blotted out of the company with which she had worked.

In my mind, she became the poster child for what it means to create one’s life without checking in with God. She became the supreme example of trying to create abundance on the competitive plain. She constantly “pushed the rope,” and that rope transformed into a noose.

I believe as children of THE CREATOR, made in His image, we are born creators. We can create our lives on our own, pursuing selfish, self-gratifying and vain ambition. We can do this by stepping on others, forcing our will onto others, or by manipulating and controlling (aka force).

Or we can amble through life without any goals or objectives. As the Cheshire Cat told Alice, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road’ll take you there.” And “there” isn’t always the best location.

Most people choose something between these two extremes.

I am an advocate of having goals and dreams, but I believe for best results, we co-create them with God. We step out of the competitive plain onto the creative plain. We check in with God to make sure the aspirations we set for ourselves are in alignment with our highest purpose and soul fulfillment.

Then we

– set clear intentions,
– ask for assistance,
– take inspired action,
– operate from gratitude, and
– allow the co-creation process to take place.

What do I mean by co-creation? I believe nature is friendly to your plans when you operate from your highest purpose. Angels, Spirit and the intelligent matter of the universe line up on your team to help you achieve your objectives. The right people will be introduced to you at the perfect time. The optimal resources will be made available to you. The appropriate doors will open for you.

But you must be willing to set a clear intention, ask, listen for a confirmation that you’re on path, and take inspired action. Action is critical. As Wallace Wattles wrote in 1910: “By faith the thing you want is brought to you and by action you receive it.” Do all you know to do. Reach toward God’s reaching, but never force, manipulate or control.

If you are honest with yourself, if you have integrity, what you want is what God wants for you. The powers of heaven are on your side.

But remember the powers of heaven can only be activated upon the principles of righteousness. When we undertake to cover our mistakes, to gratify our pride, our vain ambition, or to exercise control or dominion or compulsion upon other people or upon the elements of the universe, in any degree of unrighteousness, the heavens withdraw themselves; the Spirit of the Lord is grieved. And when it is withdrawn, we are left to ourselves – to push that rope.

Stop back by for my next entry… I’ll be talking about what to do when things don’t fall into place, when doors seem to slam in your face when you feel certain God told you to travel the path you’re traveling.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

12 Days of Christmas Creativity: Ode to Laura West

Not only am I waxing generous with my Crazy Christmas Blowout, but the Spirit of Christmas has made me a little silly and creative. Here’s my project for today… an ode to my buddy, the creative thought leader, Laura West. It’s sung to the tune of the “12 Days of Christmas.” Enjoy!

If you really want a laugh, listen to me sing it…


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On the first day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

artsuppliesA box of colored Post-it Notes

On the second day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

On the third day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

On the fourth day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

FOUR Calendars
THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

On the fifth day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

FIVE Vision Maps
FOUR Calendars
THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

On the sixth day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

SIX Neo-Color Crayons
FIVE Vision Maps
FOUR Calendars
THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

On the seventh day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

SEVEN Acrylic Paints
SIX Neo-Color Crayons
FIVE Vision Maps
FOUR Calendars
THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

Laura West, Creative Thought Leader

On the eighth day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

EIGHT Sticks of Glue
SEVEN Acrylic Paints
SIX Neo-Color Crayons
FIVE Vision Maps
FOUR Calendars
THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

On the ninth day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

NINE Distress Stains
EIGHT Sticks of Glue
SEVEN Acrylic Paints
SIX Neo-Color Crayons
FIVE Vision Maps
FOUR Calendars
THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

On the tenth day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

TEN Box of Crayons
NINE Distress Stains
EIGHT Sticks of Glue
SEVEN Acrylic Paints
SIX Neo-Color Crayons
FIVE Vision Maps
FOUR Calendars
THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

On the eleventh day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

ELEVEN Ephermera (aka Bling)
TEN Box of Crayons
NINE Distress Stains
EIGHT Sticks of Glue
SEVEN Acrylic Paints
SIX Neo-Color Crayons
FIVE Vision Maps
FOUR Calendars
THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

On the twelfth day of Christmas my friend Laura gave to me

TWELVE Magazines
ELEVEN Ephermera
TEN Box of Crayons
NINE Distress Stains
EIGHT Sticks of Glue
SEVEN Acrylic Paints
SIX Neo-Color Crayons
FIVE Vision Maps
FOUR Calendars
THREE Joy Journals
TWO Sharpie Markers
And a box of colored Post-it Notes

Want to see Laura’s Art Supplies? Here’s Laura talking about creating a Joy Journal:

Visit Laura’s Business Fusion Studio to unleash your business creative genius and find out what to do with all this fun stuff! www.businessfusionstudio.com

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

What Romance Taught Me about Achieving My Dreams

Many of us avoid putting our hearts and souls into following our dreams because we’re scared of disappointment. We’re afraid our hopes will be dashed or we’ll let ourselves down. Perhaps we’re worried about what other people will think.

joshelisehands2As I’ve re-entered the dating world, I’ve learned something important about life that applies to following your dreams.

I’m trying to be different than I used to be in a romantic relationship. I’m focusing on showing up fully as myself, opening my heart, being willing to be vulnerable and fully honest.  I’m trying to express how I feel, even when that might risk the relationship ending.

There is a risk involved when you do this. Your heart can get broken.

Yet, I realize now that much of the way I showed up in my marriage was about protecting my heart and expecting so little that I couldn’t be disappointed. I’m determined not to do that again. Did this half-hearted, self-protecting stance lead to the very thing I was trying to avoid? Perhaps. It certainly didn’t help.

I think this fear of being hurt in relationships is akin to the fear of disappointment many of us experience in goal-setting. We’re afraid of setting our hearts on something, only to suffer disappointment, self-judgment or ridicule. Defeat can be heart-breaking. So we go about our goal-setting in a half-committed way because we want to protect our hearts.

One of the realizations that came to me as I entered a new relationship was that I could get hurt. I was operating a bit out of fear, holding back because my heart could get broken.

Then, one day I came to this realization that I’d passed the point of no return. If this relationship didn’t work out, I was going to be hurt – no doubt about it. Just admitting that to myself, relieved something that allowed me to take those barriers off my heart and risk showing up fully as myself. Yes, I could get hurt, but I was going to get hurt anyway if it didn’t work out. And a case could be made that the only hope the relationship has is for me to show up fully.

If you go through your whole life and you know you could have created the life you wanted, but you didn’t try, or only half-tried, you’re going to be hurt. Whether you abdicate your ability to create or whether you give it your all and it doesn’t pan out, you’re going to get hurt. Yet, odds are, if you give it your all, you will get something. I believe God grants us according to our desires. And if we throw our hearts and souls behind our desires and do what we can, we will get something good in the end.

But if you don’t show up fully because you’re afraid of failure or being hurt, you’re destined to fail and you’re destined for disappointment.

So give it your all! Throw yourself 100% into your dreams. It’s the only way you can even hope to achieve them. And in the end you will know that you gave it your best shot, that you gave it your all. That alone, builds self-worth and shapes you into a person of character.

Join me for my next “How to Create Your Own Amazing Life Workshop

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Quit Worrying About How!

So many of us never go for our dreams because we can’t see HOW we’re going to get past the obstacles that loom before us. Or we never set out because we don’t know every step it will take to arrive at our destination.

Don’t let the important desires for your heart be held hostage because you don’t know how they can happen! In this video I talk about how to create your own amazing life by letting go of how it will happen…

Join me for the next How to Create Your Own Amazing Life Workshop starting in January 2014!

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.