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Is Your Inability to Say No Making You Sick, Tired or Broke?

One of the hardest things for many women to do is to say no. As wives, mothers and friends, we live much of our lives as caregivers. As a result, we begin to think other people’s wishes must take precedence over our own.

We’ve often heard that we need to say “No” more. If we don’t, we’ll end up sick, tired, or broke because we aren’t taking care of ourselves. But it goes beyond the usual self-care advice. I’d like to explore how being sick, tired or broke is actually serving you on some level and what you can do about it.

As Long As You Have a Good Excuse

Many people take on projects and tasks that are out of alignment with who they are and what they are here to do because they don’t know how to say, “No.” Many of us take on too much and wear ourselves out, sacrificing our health and peace of mind on the altar of having to say “Yes” to more than we can adequately manage.

When that becomes more than we can bear, we shift to excuses-making. After all, you need a good excuse to say, “No” – right? Most of us feel we do. If we don’t have a “good enough excuse,” there’s guilt.  Guilt can be so uncomfortable our minds search for a way out.

Growing up, if I or one of my siblings made an excuse for why we couldn’t do something, my dad would say, “Well, as long as you have a good excuse.”

He wanted us to understand that we were making excuses. We were searching for a way out. He wanted us to be aware we were only fooling ourselves with our excuses. Did we really need the excuse?

Often, people who have a hard time saying “No” end up in these types of situations:

Leading incredibly busy lives which become unbalanced. Busy-ness becomes the excuse that justifies why we can’t do one more thing.

For many years, I was a workaholic. I used my busy-ness as a badge of honor. I derived my value from my busy-ness. It also gave me an excuse to get out of doing things I didn’t want to do. I was too chicken to say, “No,” so I just stayed busy with things I’d rather be doing.

Becoming sick. Bodies often become sick in order to give us a guilt-free excuse to say, “No.” I’ve worked with several clients who discovered that their illnesses were actually serving them. Being sick gave them an excuse to decline other people’s demands or to get out of doing things they were scared to do. These were real, legitimate illnesses, certainly not in their minds, but their bodies were trying to speak to them and get their attention through dis-ease.

This is especially common when there are other people in one’s life who will not take “No” for an answer. People who are prone to manipulating, guilt-tripping, and nagging often make others feel trapped. The person who is being manipulated actually becomes sick because there seems to be no other viable “excuse” that the manipulator will accept.

Of course, there are a myriad of reasons for illnesses. This is just one to consider.

Having money problems. If you have money problems, you can use, “I have to work” or “I don’t have the money for that” as excuses not to do what you are too afraid, lazy or scared to do.

For example, it might be that you don’t know how to say “No” to your children, and you’re afraid of spoiling them if you buy them too much. Your subconscious mind might work around those tough conversations and boundary-setting by making sure you have little spending money.

Who Owns Your Power?

Bottom line, the root issue is that we are abdicating our personal power to other people. When we get tired of abdicating our power to other people, we shift to advocating it to the excuse.  The excuse takes over our lives. We become overwhelmed, sick or money-strapped.

The solution is simple… we take back responsibility for our own choices. We understand that we are the creators of our own lives. Each person has the freedom to choose how he or she will spend time, money, resources and energy. We have a God-given right to do that, and we owe no one an excuse.

Our wishes, feelings, and needs are every bit as important as anyone else’s. If you do not take care of yourself, certainly no one else will.

The Price You Pay for Excuses

When you give over your power to the excuse, you can’t do what you are on this planet to do. Your energy, health, time and money is sucked down the black hole of the excuse. There’s nothing left for your divine purpose.  On top of that, you’re miserable.

Have an Honest Conversation with Yourself

If you recognize yourself in any of these scenarios, I recommend the following activity.

Obviously, these challenges are very real for you. You probably didn’t even know why they were happening until now. It’s not like you consciously set out to make yourself sick or miserable. But there is some self-preserving part of you that is trying to protect you. It’s time to have a conversation with that part of yourself. Here are the steps for doing that.

First, admit that you are using health challenges, busyness, or money issues as an excuse to get out of what you don’t want to do. Really absorb and see that you are doing this. What are you trying to get out of?  Why are you trying to get out of it? Are you afraid? Are you scared to have tough conversations with others? Do you have inaccurate beliefs about what is possible for you?

Second, thank the part of yourself that has been trying to rescue you. Thank it for the health, money or busyness issues.  There is a part of you that is trying to help you say, “No.” Thank this part of yourself that understands you haven’t been setting clear boundaries with yourself and others. Ask it to forgive you for not taking better care of yourself and not standing in your power.

Tell it that you forgive it for making you tired, sick and/or broke and that you understand now that it was trying to protect you. Thank it for getting your attention and bringing you to the point where you have the courage to own your own power.

Third, commit to growing a spine and saying “No” without guilt, without excuse. If you don’t want to do something, you have every right to say “No”… And you don’t owe a soul an explanation why.

Fourth, make a commitment to honor yourself and set clear boundaries about what you will and won’t do.

Fifth, strike a deal with yourself. Continue the conversation with your self-preserving side. Work out a win-win solution.

You might say something like this,

“Thank you for giving me health challenges so that I would have a guilt-free excuse to say ‘No’ to things I didn’t want to do or that felt unsafe. I appreciate you trying to protect me. Please forgive me for not setting and honoring clear boundaries with myself and others.

I now see that I don’t need to be sick anymore just to have an excuse. I have a right to say ‘No.’ From now on, I’m going to stand up for myself. Thank you for the health issues. Obviously, I don’t need them anymore because I hereby commit to set clear boundaries and honor and value myself by sticking to them. Thank you. Let’s please work together toward a healthier, better way of living.”

Sixth, clean out any victim energy, past trauma, unhealthy habits, or unproductive guilt using energy techniques. Personally, I use the SimplyHealed Method™ to quickly and painlessly get down to root issues and release them. I’ve used these techniques since 2011, with both myself and my clients. It’s powerful in bringing you peace, hope and the courage to take control of your own life. (Learn more here.)

Remember: Change is good! And it’s okay to ask for help. As you do these steps and as you take care of yourself, you’ll begin to create a more abundant life. You’ll begin to realize your full potential.

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About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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Body Talk: What Your Body Is Telling You About Your Life

Have you ever wondered why you have certain aches and pains, chronic illness, or other sicknesses? Perhaps you’ve heard people say that ailments are body talk. Our bodies talk to us in the only way they know how about our suppressed emotions, grudges, past disappointments, unhealthy beliefs or unresolved trauma.

While I am not convinced that every sniffle has a message to convey, I do believe there is more correlation between what’s going on in our hearts and minds and what’s happening in our bodies than modern traditional medicine considers.

How does this correlation work? First, we need to understand that everything in the universe is made up of energy. A good flow of energy is optimal. If the energy is knotted, fractured, or blocked by something, then problems arise.

Many believe that everything that happens in our lives happens first on a spiritual or energetic level and then eventually moves into physical form. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation states that everything is either growing or dying. It’s evolving into physical form or it’s dissipating and dissolving out of physical form and back into spiritual form. A good example of this are the states of H20: steam, water, and ice.

Energy Systems

Just as the body has different systems like the digestive, circulatory, and nervous systems, our energy systems include systems like meridians, chakras, grids, and the aura.

Just as a blockage, knot or growth in our physical bodies can be problematic, so can obstructions or abnormalities in our energy systems.

Our energy systems can be affected by our lower frequency emotions (like grief, loss, negativity, depression, despondency, doubt, fear). Our energy systems can also be affected by our past experiences, trauma, other people’s interference, detrimental beliefs, and generational patterns. When the energy systems stay in a persistent state, it’s like a seed planted that eventually grows into physical form.

If negative emotions are planted, fed and nourished, a problem will almost always eventually show up in the physical body.

body talkI’ll give you an example. In the summer of 2017, I had some photographs made of my aura (the energy system radiating from my body). In these photos, if you look closely at the left side of my mouth (which is the right side in the photo to the right), you can see a darker area that dips down at the corner of my mouth.

When the specialist taking the photograph saw this, he pointed out that I had a tooth problem on my lower left jaw. He did not even have to look at my teeth, but I knew I did have a chipped tooth that needed to be repaired in that location.

Often physical ailments materialize because of emotional reasons. Our bodies are like babies. They talk to us the only way they know how – by crying. Our bodies “crying” can look like illness, pain, or other problems (like my tooth). There’s a great book by Karol Truman called “Feelings Buried Alive Never Die” which gives you the typical emotional feelings associated with common bodily issues.

According to her book, a lower tooth problem relates to Impatience. The left side of the body has to do with spirituality and receiving. No surprises there… I’ve never been the most patient person on the planet … especially when my spiritual eyes can see something in the future that I really want NOW.

aura photographyNot only can we read the status of our bodies in our energy systems, but also indicators of our emotional health show up in the energy systems.

For example, the scientist reading my aura photograph exclaimed, “Wow! you go, girl! You’re bright beautiful, symmetrical and just [excellent, first rate]!”

The inclusion of all the colors in the aura and its shape and size were what he was referring to.

He said, “You must be in communications. Your throat indicates a strong voice.” Look at the bright blue area on my neck for this. As an author, speaker, and teacher, this was no surprise. But I also wondered if it might relate to the fact that I had taken up singing in public a few months prior and had begun sharing my very vulnerable life situations online.

As my mentor, the creator of the SimplyHealedTM Method says, “There are no secrets in the energy field.”

Much of what we believe about energy systems we take on faith, but this experience was a fun opportunity for me to see in a more tangible way what was going on in my energy systems. Since only a few months earlier my mother had died and I’d gone through an unexpected divorce, it was incredibly affirming to see that the fast track to healing God sent me on, had indeed taken root at the most basic level of my being — in my energy systems.

If you’re ready to align your energetic systems with the personal growth, health and business success you seek, click here to learn how you can personally work with me to accelerate your healing and growth on both a personal and career level.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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Analysis Paralysis: How Much Analysis Is Healthy?

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” – Socrates

As an analytical person, I would tend to agree with Socrates. Those who will not examine their lives tend to keep repeating the same mistakes. Yet, in this article, I’d like to issue a caution to my fellow analytically-minded readers. If you’re someone prone to self-examination, this is for you.

There comes a point where over-examination and too much analysis can be detrimental to our progress. There really is a thing called analysis paralysis where you can’t move forward because you’re too busy trying to examine the past or the present or what might happen in the future.

In my experience, the really awesome happenings in life were not orchestrated by me or my analysis. I simply chose a path the best I could, got into motion on that path, and doors of opportunities began opening as I moved my feet.

Many of us stay in analysis until we feel we or our idea are “perfect enough.” I have news for you. You and your ideas will never be perfect enough – and they certainly won’t reach any form of perfection if you don’t get out in the world and start acting upon them.

Sometimes we stay in analysis mode too long because we aren’t sure where to go. The more we stir the pot, the more confused we become. We’re waiting for that big heavenly download or vision to reveal to us the correct path.

Here’s the rub… rarely do we ever catch a big vision that propels us forward without taking a few steps down a path or at least making a clear choice about what path to take.  A wise gentlemen I know once said,

“Revelation comes as you use your agency to move your feet.” – Mark E. Mendenhall

Analysis Vs. Self-Criticism

The challenge many of us have is that we do not realize that analysis is only one part of the process. There comes a point that analysis must lead to action. In and of itself, analysis does not create or produce anything. It can formulate ideas for improving what is produced or created, but analysis is only a tool. When used correctly, analysis is like a laser beam that tells you what to cut away and what to keep.

french silk pieThis is rather a simple example, but Sunday I was making a French Silk pie. It’s a favorite with my boys, but I hadn’t made one in about a year. I was talking with my dad while making this pie, and ended up mixing my butter, sugar and melted chocolate while the chocolate was still hot. This made the combined ingredients turn into a soupy consistency when it should have been fluffy instead.

I thought for sure I’d ruined the pie. It was late at night, and I didn’t have enough butter left to start over. My first instinct was to berate myself for being so sloppy, not paying attention, messing up the pie, etc. Why hadn’t I been paying better attention? Had I allowed the berating to transform into full-blown criticism, I could have jumped to the conclusion that I’m a horrible mom for messing up the family favorite.

Fortunately, I didn’t do that. I stopped fussing at myself, analyzed the situation, and thought, “Hmmm… the butter just needs to get hard again.” I stuck the soupy mixture in the fridge, let it harden up, then whipped it as it should have been whipped. The pie turned out perfect.

Notice that analyzing the situation enough to find a solution is a healthy way to use our examination skills. You find a solution and go into motion with the solution. Sometimes your solution works, and sometimes it does not. But finding a viable solution through analysis is much different than berating oneself or going into full blown self-criticism. Neither of those lead to better results.

Many of us have spent so much time analyzing that we’re now cutting away at our own hearts, our own flesh, our own sinews and bones, our families, our loved ones, our homes, and our relationships. The tool that was given to us to create solutions and new and better things has now turned destructive and dangerous.

There can be too much of a good thing. I’m not saying to throw away the tool. I’m just saying use it wisely, compassionately and in balance.

Are You Over Analyzing?

Here are a few indicators that analysis has become counter-productive:

  • Your analysis becomes criticism.
  • You live so much in the past you can’t enjoy the present.
  • You have a hard time forgiving yourself or letting go of your past mistakes.
  • You have a hard time forgiving others and are still harboring ill will toward them.
  • You stay in analysis that never leads to decisive action.
  • You use analysis as a way to pretend you’re doing something, to hide from the greatness within you and the divine destiny you have ahead of you.
  • Analysis has become a stalling tool.

If you feel you might be stuck in analysis paralysis, I’m willing to bet that you are good. You have done the work you need to self-improve. It’s now down to the doing. My advice:

Don’t make life so difficult. God loves you the way you are. Love yourself the way you are. Dream. Have fun. Don’t take yourself so seriously. Love your life and what you can create.

Life is a big sandbox and God doesn’t care whether you build a castle today or a mote tomorrow. He wants you to use your creativity and self-expression to have fun  and build! He wants you to be the wonderful, beautiful you and show up in the world. As you do, He’ll orchestrate the right people and circumstances to lead you where you need to be. You bring your goodness and your beauty and let Him bless everyone around you through your touch.

Breakthrough Analysis Paralysis

Nothing holds entrepreneurs back like decision-making paralysis. Obsessing over which path to take kills time and creativity and keeps you from making progress toward success. The answer? Fast decisions and fast action. But this is a challenge for many entrepreneurs.

In this audio we’ll work through…

  • fear of regretting your decision later,
  • fear of picking one thing and missing out on all the other possibilities,
  • fear of being disappointed in your choice,
  • fear of suffering the ramifications of a wrong choice.

Many people suffer from decision paralysis because they were punished or judged for “wrong” decisions in the past.

If this is you, get this powerful energy-shifting module and breakthrough the fears associated with indecisiveness. In no time, you’ll be making wise, swift, and informed decisions that keep you moving forward along the path to success.

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About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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Validate Yourself: Stop Waiting for Someone Else to Do It

I think many of us are waiting for someone else to validate us, to make us feel like we hold value. I’ve spent most of my life waiting for someone else to see all the aspects of me and appreciate me for everything I am.

Probably only a handful of people (including my parents) have come close to seeing all of me and valuing and loving me unconditionally. I am immensely grateful for them.

Throughout my life I’ve gotten aggravated that significant others weren’t seeing the full real me. But the truth is, I wasn’t fully honoring, acknowledging, valuing or respecting myself. It finally dawned on me that I needed to stop waiting for someone else to validate me.

I was the one discounting my gifts. I was the one assuming that things that come easily to me come easily for everyone. They don’t. I wasn’t seeing, acknowledging or honoring my giving, loving heart or my kindness. I wasn’t honoring my compassion, resiliency or wisdom.

I assumed everyone is wired like me. And they aren’t. I have gifts, qualities, and inner strengths that are unique to me. They are important. They contribute to the world and enrich the lives of the people around me.

The shift came when I stopped blaming men, clients or the world for not taking the time to really know or value me. I had to stop playing the victim and own my role. There was only one person to blame and that was me. I was the one who didn’t step up for me. I was the one who hadn’t given me the validation I deserved. I’ve always been able to see the greatness in others, why wouldn’t I see it in myself?

It’s extremely liberating to realize you don’t need someone else to come along and validate you. How could anyone else truly value me and my qualities if I don’t value myself?

What about you? Have you ever taken the time to stop and celebrate your accomplishments, acknowledge the hard things you’ve been through and risen above? Have you itemized your good qualities? Have you witnessed and documented your own character growth?

A little bit of journaling on this could shift everything for you. I highly recommend it. Within your story, within your greatness you may also find that you have something priceless to share.

Affirmations: Validate Yourself

  • I see and embrace my own infinite worth.
  • I value myself.
  • I let go of waiting for other people to validate me.
  • I validate myself.
  • I see, acknowledge and appreciate my talents, gifts, abilities, temperament, personality, and strengths.
  • I am compassionate with myself.
  • I acknowledge the difficulties I’ve endured and the growth I’ve made.
  • I celebrate my successes and I see my own character development over time.
  • I forgive myself for what I perceive as past mistakes.
  • I trust myself to move forward in positive and ever-improving ways.

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About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Are You a Flake or a Fraud Because You Have to Change Directions?

Someone recently accused me of lacking integrity because I have offered various products and services over the last 3 years. She saw my offers as disjointed and unconnected. Of course, I see the connection, but she doesn’t.

Just to give you a little backstory …

When I lost my multi-six figure business literally overnight due to Google changes, I was left to reinvent myself. To be honest, I wasn’t exactly sure what that was supposed to look like. I doubt there are many people whose careers became obsolete overnight who immediately assess a market and instantly create a thriving new business.

Over the last three year…

  • I have consulted people on book publishing (having written/published 25 books I know the process inside out). I still consult people on book publishing and information product creation.
  • I’ve consulted people on business. I have 25, going on 26 years as an entrepreneur and have actually been offering business­-tech consulting for over 20 years.
  • I obtained my SimplyHealedTM Certification before my business setback happened because I wanted to help entrepreneurs with mindset. As I consulted clients, I became very frustrated when clients couldn’t move forward because of emotional and mental blocks that held them captive. SimplyHealed gave me a way to help them swiftly make progress.
  • Recently, I announced a 6-step system I used to find the man of my dreams. I decided to offer this because I had so many people telling me I should. And I’m trying to do what I tell my students… “let your story lead the way.” I’m not a therapist, and I don’t claim to be a relationship expert, but I did learn a lot about what to do and what not to do. I used the SimplyHealed MethodTM to work on myself and clear past traumas and limiting beliefs that tripped me up.

Bottom line, this person who sent me a critical email accused me of lacking integrity because I have offered this variety of services and products over the last three years. She accused me of “doing anything to make a buck.”

I am totally aware that I’ve been tweaking and adapting.  I know that when you aren’t clear about what you offer, there’s no way for your prospective clients to figure out what you’re offering.

The fact this person couldn’t see the connection in my offerings hit a nerve with my own fears and frustrations with the process of tweaking and adapting to find what people need.

I’d been pushing that fear down and ignoring it, but this person forced it to the surface. I’m publicly thanking this person for her criticism because it allowed me to address something important that could be sabotaging my success.

I think you may have experienced similar feelings about yourself. When you put yourself out there (or are thinking of doing so), it’s rare to succeed right out of the box.

It’s easy to let those inner voices (and perhaps outer ones) tell you that you are a fraud or that you are a flake because you have to try so many things to find what works. Or maybe you’re concerned you will come across as lacking integrity because you have so many different interests and are good at a variety of things.

I want to assure you that you are not a flake or a fraud. If you’re like most of my readers or clients, you are highly creative. You possess diverse talents. You could go in a lot of directions successfully.

business is aboutBusiness is all about testing, tweaking and adapting. It’s about experimenting and seeing what works and what doesn’t. It’s about being vulnerable, getting knocked down, getting back up again, falling, staggering to your feet, tweaking your approach, and trying it again, and again and again. It’s continuing even if people judge you or criticize you.

Yes, there will be naysayers or people who want to pull you down like crabs in a bucket. Crabs latch onto any fellow-crab who is about to escape to freedom. People who are too scared to try are all too eager to pull you down.

Don’t listen to them! Don’t listen to that voice in your head that’s telling you that what you have isn’t good enough, or isn’t complete enough, or that you can’t get up one more time. Never say die. Even Edison had to try a thousand variations before he got a light bulb that worked.

When you do find your winning light bulb creation, people will most likely call you an overnight success. They rarely see all the failures, persistence, adaptation, and determination it took for you to wade through a thousand “mistakes” to find your winning combination.

In the meantime, remember you and your gifts are valuable. If you have to put your various talents out there in assorted ways to earn a living for your family, don’t let anyone tell you that you are anything but a hero for doing so. Don’t let anyone tell you that your talents aren’t worth the money customers pay to benefit from them.

In my experience, nothing is wasted. It all comes together in a beautifully orchestrated symphony that brings help and healing to those you are here to serve.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

I Am Titanium

Over the last 3 years, I’ve traveled a rocky road: from business demise to financial stress, from a failed marriage to a broken heart. I’ve often felt more like a battle-worn soldier with her legs blown off, trying to elbow her way off the field than a single entrepreneurial mother of six.

I know I’m not the only one. I know a lot of people have been suffering in the last few years … many in a lot worse situations than mine. When life’s relentless daily and monthly demands march incessantly forward, it’s easy to feel hopeless and trapped. It’s easy to lose confidence when what you used to know how to do doesn’t work anymore. You can lose faith in yourself and God when you can’t trust your judgement, inspiration, or your interpretation of it.

“You don’t know anything!”
“Give up!”
“Forget it!”
“Go get a JOB!”
“Forget your dreams. They’re impossible!”
“People obviously don’t want or need what you’re offering.”

Have you heard those words ricochet between your ears?

I know I have. Eventually you get to a place of complete surrender. Your pride is gone. You don’t feel like you have a right to advise anyone else how to live their lives because the world obviously doesn’t work the way you thought it did.

You feel more like a plastic bag floating across a parking lot than a human being with the ability to choose your path.

Today, I was at the gym and I heard the song, “Titanium.” I’ve heard it before, but never paid attention to the words.  Today, I decided this is my new theme song.

titaniumYou shoot me down
But I get up.
I’m bulletproof, nothing to lose
Fire away, fire away
Ricochet, you take your aim
Fire away, fire away
You shoot me down but I won’t fall
I am titanium
You shoot me down but I won’t fall
I am titanium

My friend Martina Muir talks about how we need more than “light, fluffy, energetic shields to protect ourselves. We need shields of fire and metal.” Why not titanium?

So if you’re feeling beat down, as if you don’t have a choice in where your life is heading, crank up this song, sing along and put up your titanium shield!

And remember these lines from Ayn Rand’s “Atlas Shrugged” voiced by John Galt:

In the name of the best within you, do not sacrifice your sense of life to an enemy that would claim your precious mind… Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserve, but have never been able to reach… The world you desire can be won; it exists; it is real; it is possible; it is yours.” – John Galt (Atlas Shrugged III)

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Have You Lost Hope?

When life has slammed you with one disappointment after another, it’s easy to lose faith that anything can be different. Sliding into a state of hopelessness often occurs.

sadwoman-morguefileI know how this feels. I’ve been there, done that. It’s a lonely and powerless place to be. But, in time I discovered a secret for maintaining hope without letting every disappointment crush it.

The secret is in knowing what part you control and what part God controls.

  • You control WHAT you want and WHY you want it.
  • The only WHO you control is you. Let go of trying to control who else is involved or what they choose to do with their lives.
  • Let go of WHEN it will happen, and WHERE.
  • You have a little control over HOW it happens, but mainly God controls that too.
  • Listen and act on inspiration as soon as it comes.
  • In the meantime, hold your vision and live in gratitude. Let whatever comes be enough in that moment.
  • If something doesn’t work out, it just means something better is around the corner. Hold your faith in what you want and why you want it.

This is the essence of what I’ve tried to teach for the last decade. Where did it come from?  How did I gain this insight? I was reading in the Bible where it says Jesus is “the Author and Finisher of our faith.” Every good author covers Who, What, Why, When, Where and How. As an author myself and a bit of a control-freak, I looked at that verse and asked myself what part I control and what part He controls.

I developed this formula and have tested it with time.  It works. When I live by it, I am happier and things work out.

Whenever I get antsy, disappointed, or irritated that my life is out of control, I check to see if I’m trying to control one of the elements that aren’t mine to control. If I am, I give that to God and let it go.

What If You Don’t Trust God Anymore?

But what if you’ve been slammed so many times you’ve lost your trust in God. You may gain no comfort from my formula. You may be wondering, “Is God there? Does He even care about me? I’m all on my own. The only person I can count on is me.”

I can understand feeling like you can’t count on God. I can relate to not feeling trust or hope or faith. I’ve been there. A lot of my clients have experienced the same thing.

The energy therapy I do has been an immense part of my journey. It has helped me process the trauma and disappointments of the past and let them go. It’s reconnected me to hope, faith and trust in God.

That’s one of the most common results I see in my clients from the beginning of a session to the end. They move from overwhelm and hopelessness to a feeling of peace, hope and gratitude by the end.

That’s why I love my work. It’s so rewarding to assist people in regaining their hope, faith and trust in God and in themselves.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Overcome the 7 Obstacles to Success

For several years, I just wouldn’t do it. Wouldn’t do the very thing I’m good at.

Have you ever resisted the very thing you’ve been called to do?

Why did I avoid consulting people?

Because I could tell my clients were not going to follow through. I’d give them sound business and marketing advice, but I could sense they had some kind of belief, block or limitation that would derail them.

I hated taking people’s money and them not get results. So I stopped consulting. I didn’t pick it back up until I learned how to help people move past the typical fears and roadblocks to success.

You might be wondering what those roadblocks are and whether you have some of them yourself. Here
are 7 of the most common ones I’ve identified…

  • Fear of Success
  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Confrontation
  • Scarcity Thinking
  • Fear of Being Exposed / Embarrassed
  • Inability to attract supportive colleagues / clients
  • And taking responsibility for things you can’t control

If you’re struggling with any of these (and most people are to some degree), I invite you to join me starting Monday for Breakthrough to Radiance.

Break through these 7 obstacles and achieve YOUR next level of success!

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Is Your Receiver Broken?

Did you know there is a whole energy around giving and receiving? Try this. Exhale and count to 30 slowly. Can you do it? Probably not. At some point you’re going to need to inhale. Receiving is every bit as important as giving.

giving and receivingAs an energy practitioner, one of the first things I learned is how emotions and feelings are mapped to the body. Energetically speaking, the right side of the body represents the “giving side” or the “male side.” The left side of the body represents the “receiving side” or the “female side.”  The right side also has to do with being aggressive while the left represents being passive.

So let’s say you have a pain in your left shoulder, it could be related to a burden you’re carrying that is female-related or that relates to family. It could have to do with not receiving the help you need to carry that burden, or not being open to receiving.  The right shoulder can typically relate to financial burdens (think provider male).

When I first learned about this right/giving/male vs left/receiving/female aspect to energy, I was thrown a bit. Why? I always perceived women as givers and men as receivers. Having been in a role-reversed marriage, I saw myself as the giver and my male partner as the taker. Frankly, that could have been caused by my expectations more than what the other person was or wasn’t willing to do. I’ll own that.

Whatever the reason, I was on permanent exhale, never taking in a solid inhale. As a result, I quickly became depleted. My well was dry.

Over the last couple years, I’ve felt myself being reprogrammed to receive. Through a series of setbacks, life has put me in positions where I HAVE to receive. I have to ask for help. Recently, I’ve met a man who is very much a giver / provider. Here’s an example. He came to my house, assessed the repairs that were needed, took me to Home Depot, bought the necessary items to make repairs (wouldn’t let me pay) and proceeded to fix my house. The whole thing felt so odd to me, wonderfully, beautifully, odd. And I realized I still have a lot to learn about receiving.

I’m very grateful for this beautiful man who is showing me what a giving male looks like and is helping me embrace more of my femininity. Giving is not better than receiving. Both are necessary and I hope to one day find that natural breathing balance.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.