perfection

Perfection Vs. Good Enough

When I was young, my brother (who was quite the perfectionist) referred to me as “good enough, Marnie” because I would do the best I could and then say, “Well, that’s good enough.” He called me, “Good enough Marnie” with just enough derision to let me know he felt I had fallen short of perfection in his mind.

I told one of my friends this story years ago and forgot I’d even mentioned it to her. A couple nights ago, she sent me a video of her cute little grandson (perhaps 4-5 years old) playing with his racetrack.

He moved some cars along the track and then said, “Good enough, Marnie.” His grandfather asked him to repeat it for clarification.

My friend explained, “Your legacy lives on in our family.” I had no idea and wasn’t too thrilled that my legacy would mean doing a slop job (the meaning my brother attached to that phrase).

What I didn’t know is that this phrase became “the phrase” her family uses when they feel they’ve done as much as they know to do and just can’t do anymore. She explained, “It’s like a respite from guilt and pressure!”

Isn’t it interesting how 3 words can mean something derogatory to one person and something hopeful to another. It’s all in our perspectives.

After she explained how her family uses the phrase, I felt quite honored. I honestly believe there comes a point where we’ve done all we know to do and we have to just relax, let go of the outcome, and trust that things will work out.

Beating ourselves up over that last ounce of perfection simply isn’t worth it. It makes us feel bad, keeps us from moving forward, and keeps us from accomplishing other more important things in life.

How to Get More Done in a Day Than Most Accomplish in a WeekIn fact, I would say letting go of perfectionism is one of my best pieces of advice for getting more done in less time.

For more of my secrets on how to get more done in a day than most accomplish in a week, click here.

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About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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Analysis Paralysis: How Much Analysis Is Healthy?

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” – Socrates

As an analytical person, I would tend to agree with Socrates. Those who will not examine their lives tend to keep repeating the same mistakes. Yet, in this article, I’d like to issue a caution to my fellow analytically-minded readers. If you’re someone prone to self-examination, this is for you.

There comes a point where over-examination and too much analysis can be detrimental to our progress. There really is a thing called analysis paralysis where you can’t move forward because you’re too busy trying to examine the past or the present or what might happen in the future.

In my experience, the really awesome happenings in life were not orchestrated by me or my analysis. I simply chose a path the best I could, got into motion on that path, and doors of opportunities began opening as I moved my feet.

Many of us stay in analysis until we feel we or our idea are “perfect enough.” I have news for you. You and your ideas will never be perfect enough – and they certainly won’t reach any form of perfection if you don’t get out in the world and start acting upon them.

Sometimes we stay in analysis mode too long because we aren’t sure where to go. The more we stir the pot, the more confused we become. We’re waiting for that big heavenly download or vision to reveal to us the correct path.

Here’s the rub… rarely do we ever catch a big vision that propels us forward without taking a few steps down a path or at least making a clear choice about what path to take.  A wise gentlemen I know once said,

“Revelation comes as you use your agency to move your feet.” – Mark E. Mendenhall

Analysis Vs. Self-Criticism

The challenge many of us have is that we do not realize that analysis is only one part of the process. There comes a point that analysis must lead to action. In and of itself, analysis does not create or produce anything. It can formulate ideas for improving what is produced or created, but analysis is only a tool. When used correctly, analysis is like a laser beam that tells you what to cut away and what to keep.

french silk pieThis is rather a simple example, but Sunday I was making a French Silk pie. It’s a favorite with my boys, but I hadn’t made one in about a year. I was talking with my dad while making this pie, and ended up mixing my butter, sugar and melted chocolate while the chocolate was still hot. This made the combined ingredients turn into a soupy consistency when it should have been fluffy instead.

I thought for sure I’d ruined the pie. It was late at night, and I didn’t have enough butter left to start over. My first instinct was to berate myself for being so sloppy, not paying attention, messing up the pie, etc. Why hadn’t I been paying better attention? Had I allowed the berating to transform into full-blown criticism, I could have jumped to the conclusion that I’m a horrible mom for messing up the family favorite.

Fortunately, I didn’t do that. I stopped fussing at myself, analyzed the situation, and thought, “Hmmm… the butter just needs to get hard again.” I stuck the soupy mixture in the fridge, let it harden up, then whipped it as it should have been whipped. The pie turned out perfect.

Notice that analyzing the situation enough to find a solution is a healthy way to use our examination skills. You find a solution and go into motion with the solution. Sometimes your solution works, and sometimes it does not. But finding a viable solution through analysis is much different than berating oneself or going into full blown self-criticism. Neither of those lead to better results.

Many of us have spent so much time analyzing that we’re now cutting away at our own hearts, our own flesh, our own sinews and bones, our families, our loved ones, our homes, and our relationships. The tool that was given to us to create solutions and new and better things has now turned destructive and dangerous.

There can be too much of a good thing. I’m not saying to throw away the tool. I’m just saying use it wisely, compassionately and in balance.

Are You Over Analyzing?

Here are a few indicators that analysis has become counter-productive:

  • Your analysis becomes criticism.
  • You live so much in the past you can’t enjoy the present.
  • You have a hard time forgiving yourself or letting go of your past mistakes.
  • You have a hard time forgiving others and are still harboring ill will toward them.
  • You stay in analysis that never leads to decisive action.
  • You use analysis as a way to pretend you’re doing something, to hide from the greatness within you and the divine destiny you have ahead of you.
  • Analysis has become a stalling tool.

If you feel you might be stuck in analysis paralysis, I’m willing to bet that you are good. You have done the work you need to self-improve. It’s now down to the doing. My advice:

Don’t make life so difficult. God loves you the way you are. Love yourself the way you are. Dream. Have fun. Don’t take yourself so seriously. Love your life and what you can create.

Life is a big sandbox and God doesn’t care whether you build a castle today or a mote tomorrow. He wants you to use your creativity and self-expression to have fun  and build! He wants you to be the wonderful, beautiful you and show up in the world. As you do, He’ll orchestrate the right people and circumstances to lead you where you need to be. You bring your goodness and your beauty and let Him bless everyone around you through your touch.

Breakthrough Analysis Paralysis

Nothing holds entrepreneurs back like decision-making paralysis. Obsessing over which path to take kills time and creativity and keeps you from making progress toward success. The answer? Fast decisions and fast action. But this is a challenge for many entrepreneurs.

In this audio we’ll work through…

  • fear of regretting your decision later,
  • fear of picking one thing and missing out on all the other possibilities,
  • fear of being disappointed in your choice,
  • fear of suffering the ramifications of a wrong choice.

Many people suffer from decision paralysis because they were punished or judged for “wrong” decisions in the past.

If this is you, get this powerful energy-shifting module and breakthrough the fears associated with indecisiveness. In no time, you’ll be making wise, swift, and informed decisions that keep you moving forward along the path to success.

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About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

LDS temples

How to Accomplish Big Things

Want to know how to accomplish big things? Here’s a lesson from history on how…

Whether you’re LDS or not you probably have seen one of their 155 temples. “The Mormons” are known for their gorgeous temples. But do you know the story of the first one?

Back in the 1830s God told Joseph Smith to build a temple. Joseph shared this with the people. They owned a piece of land in Kirtland, OH they would use. Three months came and went with no work on the temple. And the Lord started to chastise Joseph for not acting on this project.

When I read this I thought. “That’s a huge undertaking for a small new denomination. They didn’t even know what it really was for or what it was supposed to look like. You’d think God would cut them some slack. Give them more information.”

Have you ever felt God tell you to do something that seemed huge? So you waited for more instruction but all you got in time was a feeling of “why haven’t you done anything with what I told you to do?”

When the Lord sort of fussed at Joseph and the people about this, Joseph’s brother Hyrum Smith went out to the property and started digging. He had no idea what the thing was supposed to look like, but he knew it needed a foundation. So he started digging that.

accomplish big thingsOnce Hyrum started digging, God sent a revelation to Joseph Smith and Oliver Cowdery of what the temple should look like. They saw a full holographic image over their heads. They saw the dimensions, the completed exterior and interior.

But the details weren’t revealed until Hyrum did the only thing he knew to do — dig.

What is the first baby step you know to take toward your big dream? Or big project? The secret to making big things happen is to stop concerning yourself with all the steps you don’t know yet, and focus on the one right in front of you.

It’s been my experience that once you take that step, the next will reveal itself. Do the next, and the next will follow. “Line upon line, precept upon precept.” This is how God instructs you to build big things.

Are you ready to dig into that perplexing tech, business or online marketing project? Need a hand? Book a FREE 20-Minute Strategy session with me to talk about how to Get It Done!

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

be proactive not reactive

Be Proactive, Not Reactive

When I talk about A.C.T.I.O.N., I’m saying be proactive, not reactive. There’s a big difference between reacting to circumstances and proactively taking action. In this segment of Marnie’s Motivational Moments, I talk about the factors in our lives that contribute to our success or failure versus those that actually determine our success or failure.

Knowing the difference and acting accordingly can make the difference in you achieving your aspirations or not.

Be sure to join me for my next Marnie’s Marketing Mondays if you’re ready to achieve the aspirations you have for your business.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

act now

Act NOW on Inspiration

The secret to achieving your highest aspirations is to train yourself to act now on inspiration when it strikes. In this short video I illustrate how I get so much done in a real example.

If you want to know how to make your dreams come true, watch this video and master this critical secret to success.

 

Act NOW!

So what are you waiting for? If one of your dreams is to get your product, service or message out in the world where it can help other people, join me for Marnie’s Marketing Mondays. Click here to take a sneak peak inside. You’ll get one of my foundational episodes, plus gain access to my next live session.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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Recognize Inspiration: How Does It Feel to You?

When you are aligned with personal and universal truth, you open yourself up to a channel of inspiration. Inspiration looks and feels different for each person. That’s why it’s important to learn to recognize inspiration and how it shows up for you.

Some people hear a phrase in their minds. Others see a vision of clarity. Others have a sense or a knowing that they need to do something. It can come as strokes of ideas accompanied by a great feeling.

In this segment of Marnie’s Motivational Moments, I talk about I for Inspiration in the A.C.T.I.O.N. acronym.  I share the way inspiration shows up for me and how it is married to action.

How does inspiration feel to you?

Are you feeling inspired to put your work or message into the world? Let me show you how with Marnie’s Marketing Mondays.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

the truth will set you free

The Truth Will Set You Free

Jesus said that the truth will set you free. Why is this?

In this vlog I share the concepts of personal and universal truth and how they play into the type of A.C.T.I.O.N. that leads to your greatest aspirations being fulfilled.

What Is Truth?

Pilate asked Jesus, “What is truth?” That’s a very important question! There are two types of truth. First there is universal, absolute truth based on universal laws. The Law of Sowing and Reaping (aka Cause and Effect), for example, is a universal truth. What you send out, eventually comes back to you and rarely from the place you sent it.

The second type of truth is personal truth which has to do with your life purpose, your path. What works for you may not work for someone else. What’s right for you  might not be right for someone else when it comes to your  life path and purpose.

The Truth Will Set You Free

When you align your personal truth (your highest purpose) with ultimate universal truth, you put yourself on a channel of inspiration. If you follow the instructions from the inspiration channel, it will lead you to take actions that lead to ultimate freedom. Aligning yourself with your personal and universal truth opens doors of opportunity, raises up friends, and pours out peace.

This ultimate freedom creates an environment where the fulfillment of your highest aspirations is possible. Remember “aspirations” are more than amassing fame or fortunes. Aspirations are higher objectives that involve you becoming the person you’re here to be, being of service to your fellowman, and experiencing joy in your life.

It’s been said, “Adam fell that men might be, and men are that they might have joy.” That means that the object and design of our existence as men and women (children of God) is to experience joy! That happens when we align our personal truth with universal truth and live in harmony with both.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

releasing the outcome

Releasing the Outcome: Care, But Don’t Care

We’re going through the A.C.T.I.O.N. acronym. If you missed A, go here.  Today is the letter C for “Care, But Don’t Care.” In other words, you need an aspiration you truly care about, but releasing the outcome is critical.

What do I mean by that? Watch this video, because I’ll share an example of a time in my life where I had to learn what it means to care, but not care. I think it will help you see what I mean.

releasing the outcomeReleasing the Outcome

The key is to set a clear intention for something you truly care about, take inspired action toward it, and then let go of the outcome.

Remember that you can’t control other people. You want an outcome, but who else is involved is not your call to make. Other people have their own freedom to choose.

Also, you can’t always choose which opportunity will be the one to materialize. That’s something else you need to release — when, how, or where your pieces come from.

So,s care about your big aspiration — care big about it — but don’t care whether this person or this opportunity is THE ONE to make it a reality.

If your big aspiration has to do with business, join me for Marnie’s Marketing Mondays here.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

aspire to become

Aspire to Become: Becoming Precedes Achieving

 

Welcome back for another Marnie's Motivational Moment. We're going through the A.C.T.I.O.N. acronym. Any goal, dream or aspiration requires ACTION. In this segment we're talking about A for Aspiration. Aspire to become more!

When you take action based on your highest aspirations, you tap into a power to achieve great things. When all your actions are performed with your highest aspirations and big dreams in mind, there isn't much that can stop you.

Aspire to Become More

In this segment of "Marnie's Motivational Moments" I share insights on the first step to inspired action.

If your aspiration involves leaving a legacy or building a business, join me for Marnie's Marketing Mondays.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

nature responds to action

How to Make Your Dreams Come True

 

achieve your dreamsDo you have big dreams? Do you have something that your heart longs for? Is there something you've always wanted to have, do or become? If so, this series of Marnie's Motivational Moments is for you.

I am a firm believer in the fact that we create our realities. We play a significant role in the things that happen in our lives.

Sure, there will always be surprises, challenges, and setbacks, but they are all part of the process of helping us become who we desire to be on the most deepest of levels. It's the becoming that allows us to achieve the results we seek.

Yet, we can desire all day long, but if we don't take action, nothing is going to happen.

It's like the prosperous farmer who was told, "God has really blessed you with an abundant piece of property. The farmer replied, "Yes, but you should have seen it when God had it all to Himself."

God gives us the raw materials to work with, but it is up to us to take action on those materials to transform them into what we envision.

The great thing about action is that all of nature responds when you go into action toward your heartfelt desires.

So, I ask you, "Are you taking A.C.T.I.O.N?"

In this segment of Marnie's Motivational Moments you'll discover what it means to really take inspired action that makes your dreams a reality.

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About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.