hard vs. easy

Hard Vs. Easy

When someone we love is facing a hard vs. easy fork in the road, we might think enabling them to take the easy road is more loving, but the hard road could be the most loving of all.

The summer before my sophomore year of college my parents were struggling and couldn’t help me. My parents and I discussed it, and I decided to ask my grandfather for some money. It took a lot for me to go ask him. I knew he had it, but I felt weird asking him for it.

His answer was no. I don’t remember much explanation other than he felt it would be better for me if I took care of it myself. I was upset, hurt and embarrassed. But that passed.

Hard Work Pays Off

I went back to college and got an on-call job in the university food services. I cleaned tables, scooped icecream, fried eggs, washed dishes… wherever they needed me, that’s what I did. Then one day a man from the main food services office came to me while I was wiping down a dirty table.

He said, “I’m looking at your employment records and see you are in a computer major. I need someone who is good with computers in the office. Would you like to come work there?”

I heartily agreed and in a short period of time, he gave me the task of creating a cost analysis database for all the food they made and sold in the university. This was 1986-88 when computers were still in their infancy. Database design for PC’s was cutting edge.

I was able to create practical applications in real-world business while taking my Information Management classes. My boss let me set my own hours and work as much as the university allowed (20 hrs/week during Fall/Winter and 40 hrs/week in the summer).

That knowledge came in handy a decade later when I created IdeaMarketers.com (the first article directory on the web). A friend taught me Cold Fusion and gave me some starter code and I was able to program that database driven web site.

As I look back now at my grandfather’s decision not to loan me that money, I am grateful. I got out of college with only a $1250 student loan (which I used to purchase a Tandy computer) and worked my way through college doing something I loved. That experience set the stage for creating a web site that fed my family for many years and enabled me to meet some of the most influential, talented and brilliant minds.

I wonder how different my life would have been if my grandfather had said yes.

How often do we have something difficult happen in our lives, and we’re confused, angry or hurt? Then, when we look back later, we realize that had we not gone through what we did, we wouldn’t have grown in important ways. Had grandparents, parents, life, God or even our enemies not allowed us to go through difficult things, we wouldn’t have had the great experience that we had.

Challenge is an equally as important part of love as support.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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A Way Forward For All

The longer you live in victim land the more entitled you feel. The more entitled you feel, the less personal responsibility you take. Where there is no personal responsibility there can be no freedom.
And thus, victim land equals slavery… To your fears, your lack of action, your lack of looking for solutions, and to those who wish to keep you a victim so they might enslave you. The only way to freedom is through personal responsibility.
Always beware of those who want you to continue to feel you are a victim. They generally have another agenda than your happiness.
Here are a few affirmations to help you release any victim energy. I believe if we could all release our victim energy we could move forward positively as citizens of this great land and harness the freedom it affords.
  • I act from a place of personal power and positive choices.
  • I have excellent discernment and easily distinguish truth from deception.
  • I have a strong connection to God, truth, light, and love.
  • I am self-reliant, resourceful and proactive.
  • I take personal responsibility for my own actions (or inaction) and avoid blaming others for my outcomes.
  • I see opportunities and get to work in implementing my ideas.
  • I am always supported in my worthwhile ideas, projects and pursuits.
  • I let go of any feelings of persecution.
  • I look for ways to attract positive, supportive people into my life.
  • I look for the good in any and all situations.
  • I give people the benefit of the doubt and look for the good in others.
  • I let go of worrying or concerning myself over what other people think of me.
  • I constantly attract people to me who value me and treat me fairly.
  • I treat others with respect and kindness and attract people who treat me the same.
  • I am open to, see and act upon the positive opportunities all around me.
  • I let go of obsessing over what I have perceived as grievances or lost opportunities.
  • I release from the timeline of my life any and all victim energy.
  • I stand confidently in my own personal power and am impervious to anything negative from the outside world.
  • I can achieve anything I set my mind to.
  • I set clear intentions and doors open for me.
  • I am always guided by the light and am under God's protective wings

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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The Magic of Prayers

With the craziness of this historic U.S. Presidential election tensions are running high and Americans seem to be more polarized than ever before.  It’s starting to take a toll on the average citizen.  According to a recent poll by the American Psychological Association called “Stress in America,” more than half of those questioned felt “very” or “somewhat” stressed by the election, let alone all of the other regular life stressors they have going on.

It seems there is no “off switch” for the constant and overwhelming barrage of election information as well as other negative, doom and gloom news that’s over-abundantly available nowadays on T.V., radio, in print news and on the internet.  More than ever before, individuals need simple, convenient and inexpensive ways to help deal with the stress they are feeling.

Lee Milteer, an internationally known and celebrated best-selling author and award-winning professional speaker, TV Personality, entrepreneur, self-help and stress expert, and intuitive business mentor is releasing her book called The Magic of Prayers on October 27, 2016, which is the second book in a Self-Help trilogy, and the timing could not be better.

“Prayer has been forgotten by main stream America, as a viable solution to the stress we feel,” says Milteer. This book taps into the age-old method for reducing stress levels from virtually any challenge someone is currently experiencing and will be available via her website as well as on Amazon.

Magic of Prayers – Interview with the Author

I had the privilege of interviewing Lee Milteer today about her book. Here’s the full interview:

Find out more about The Magic of Prayers and how to get your copy here.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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Letting Love Lead the Way

I think more than anything, the people in our lives need us to be a safe place to go for a listening ear, a shoulder, a sounding board. Having a successful relationship means letting love lead. People don’t need us to be one more person condemning them or telling them they did something stupid. Most of us do quite well guilt-tripping ourselves.

People need us to believe in their ability to change, to do better, and to reach their potential. They need us to remind them of the good that is in them. They need us to remind them that God loves them, is on their side and has already paid the price to redeem them if they will just accept it and come to Him.

Letting Love Lead Doesn’t Mean Being a Doormat

In saying this, I’m not saying we must continue to associate with someone whose actions constantly undermine our peace. There may come a time when you will feel led to part ways with some people.

Even if someone is past feeling, refuses to change, or we can’t safely be in their space any longer, we can still hold hope for them that maybe one day they will find their way back to Him.

Forgive, let them go,and trust that God will take care of them and find a way to reach them when they’re ready. Get on with your life and make the best of it.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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Climbing Mountains & Taking Leaps of Faith

climbing mountainsHave you enjoyed the vistas of a breathtaking spiritual mountaintop? And after some time there, felt inspired to do something equivalent to diving off a cliff?

In faith, you leaped. You expected to sprout wings, but they didn’t extend… At least not enough to keep you from flailing about, struggling, crying and landing in an excruciating heap.

As you lie splattered on the earth, crushed and battered, you question what you heard and the choices you made. Maybe you even got frustrated, confused about, or downright mad at God.

Why in the WORLD would He tell you to do that? Maybe He didn’t and you were drinking some weird Koolaide.

Eventually, you make your peace with Him and with yourself. You nurse your wounds for a spell and life starts to reboot. You can breathe again and your soul starts to heal. It’s not painful anymore when you move.

You even see some reason for it all, perhaps some method in the madness. You even see it has all worked together for your good.

At this point the Spirit whispers, “I have another mountain for you to climb.”

Wide-eyed you reply, “Are you bonkers? I’ll sit here where it’s safe and warm, thank you very much.”

“It’s time to relight your fire,” that still, small voice whispers.

“Who needs fire? I’ll just stay here lukewarm and safe,” you insist.

But the longer you stay in this comfortable place, the more you know that you were never meant to play it safe on the ground. You were meant to climb, reach breathtaking vistas, and yes, most likely free fall and soar.

“Sigh… Here we go again. Which mountain, Lord?”

“Patience, child. Let’s prep for the trip…”

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

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Being Offended Is An Inside Job

Let’s talk about something that might offend people… the topic of being offended, discriminated against, criticized, etc. When you live in a free country, Christians aren’t getting their heads chopped off. Women aren’t being stoned. Gays aren’t being slaughtered (unless we’re talking ISIS attacks). If it does happen, it’s a crime and there are punishments. That’s REAL discrimination.

If someone takes away your life, liberty or property because you fall into a group (other than a criminal who deserves rights to be curtailed) then yes, you are discriminated against. In this post, I’m not talking about crimes. I’m talking about, for instance, someone said something mean to you, called you a name, or disagreed with your opinion or doesn’t want to do business with you because your hair is blue.

In a free country, if I want my right to think, believe, speak and feel what I want, then I have to allow you to think, believe, speak and feel what you want.

Thoughts, feelings, words and beliefs aren’t crimes. Actions that take away life, liberty or property are crimes.

Being offended is NOT the same as being discriminated against. Being offended is an inside job. It’s something you get to decide. The Amish weren’t offended when the guy came in and slaughtered their school children. They embraced his mother as if she were a victim too. That’s how much being offended is an inside job.

Most of us aren’t that forgiving. We all get offended. Being criticized for some aspect of your life, behavior, body, actions or beliefs is NOT a crime. It’s something we have to learn to work through on our own.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

What It’s Like Being a Minority

I spent 9 years in private fundamental Baptist schools. Yep, my brother and I were the only two “Mormons” in that school. I certainly never felt discriminated against. No one beat me up. I was first string on the basketball team, got to be in plays, was junior high valedictorian.

They may have promoted their points of doctrine that were different than mine. They had every right to do that, just as much as I had a right to believe what I wanted to believe.

I suppose I could have been offended, but I was not. Instead, I saw it for what it was – a bunch of people who believed differently than me on some points of doctrine. It’s a big world with lots of viewpoints. In fact, being among them helped me learn to love, respect and find common ground with people of all faiths.

Dealing with Bigotry

When I started a site for Christian women, I got some really nasty emails calling me a cult member and insisting I had no right to run a Christian web site. Yes, I took offense. My feelings were hurt. How dare someone accuse me of not loving my Savior? Were their comments some heinous crime? No, they had a right to say what they wanted to say, and I had a right to delete their emails without reading them.

Rather than cry “discrimination” I decided to make that site so Christ-centered no one would EVER accuse me of not being a Christian. What happened? I did that and the attacks stopped. Mysteriously, just stopped. Hmmm… Amazing what the power of Christ can do.

Dealing with Criticism

Being offended, for me, is a choice. I can choose to get my feelings hurt. Or I can look at the situation and ask, “What needs to be done here?” I started the first article directory and ran it for 14 years. During that time, I received lots of nasty emails, was cussed out by people griping about how the site was constructed or that they encountered a bug in the programming. I was even accused of single-handedly ruining the freelance writing industry.

I learned to look at each accusation or criticism and ask if it held merit. If it did, I used the feedback to improve the site or create a cool new service. If it didn’t, I wrote it off to their opinion and let it go.

Everyone Discriminates

Every day you and I are being “discriminated” for or against. You hire that consultant because she has a Pitbull like you do. You go to one hair dresser because she’s easy to talk to and avoid another because she bores you to tears.

I’m sure I’ve had people who didn’t want to work with me because of my religion, political views, the fact I got divorced in a family-focused religion, or that my southern accent grates on their nerves. Who cares? So what? I choose not to be offended – at least not for more than a couple minutes. 🙂

They aren’t my customers. They’re someone else’s. I go find the people who like me and what I have to say. To think I have to please everyone is rooted in insecurity and scarcity. There are plenty of people out there. Go find the ones who want to hire, be around, and love you. Let the rest roll on by.

That’s the beauty of a free country (and entrepreneurship). Let’s keep it that way!

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Predicting Isn't Creating

Predicting Isn’t Creating

Point of Clarification to the World:

Just because someone sees the signs and can use their common sense to predict something bad is going to happen does not mean that person WANTS it to happen or that s/he is contributing to it happening. It also doesn’t mean the person is operating out of fear. He or she is probably just looking at facts and projecting them forward.

Predicting Isn’t Creating

Predicting Isn't CreatingI believe in the “law of attraction” as much as anyone, but this idea that you can stick your head in the sand, not see (or say) what’s happening, and sing Kumbaya isn’t a solution.

To assume that someone predicting a bad thing is the same as creating it is like saying the weather forecaster created the storm.

Or here’s another practical analogy. If you want to go to a new destination you really need to take a good hard look at where you are right now.

Pretending you're in Kentucky when you're really in Miami won't help you get to Disney World.Pretending you’re in Kentucky when you’re really in Miami won’t help you get to Disney World.

This goes for all areas of our lives.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Write Books, Create Info Products: Summer Special

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This isn’t really us by the way. He’s the super tan one. I’m the ghost. 🙂

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About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

Living in the Light Doesn’t Mean Ignoring the Darkness

A wise man gave me some advice when I was about 16-17 years old. “Continue to look for the good,” he said. I have tried to do that throughout my life – to look for the good in people, to give them the benefit of the doubt, to surround myself with things that are uplifting and inspirational and steer clear of things that are degrading or depressing.

I’ve enjoyed this somewhat naive way of living for fifty years, but every once in a while the darkness rears its head, gets up in my face, and I’m required to deal with it in the best way I know how. Sometimes the darkness and evil I see in the world doesn’t directly affect me, and I’ve had a tendency to just stick my head in a “love and light cloud” and ignore it.

Living In The LightBut is this really what I should be doing? Can I look for the good and still be aware of the evil? The older I get the more I feel compelled to expose the darkness when I see it. Many of us with this “love and light” philosophy would prefer to stick our heads in the sand and pretend the evil and darkness doesn’t exist. We think if we focus on the good long enough, the light will overcome and dispel the darkness.

There may be quite a bit of truth to that. But I don’t believe we’re doing ourselves or our children any service by not addressing what is wrong in our lives or in our world.

Dinosaurs in living rooms eventually make messes that must be cleaned up.

I was pondering on this compelling urge I have to “call a spade a spade” when I see it – to point out “when the emperor is indeed wearing no clothes.” Primarily, when I see freedom being attacked, I feel an intense need to speak up.

How do I balance pointing out the bad with looking for the good and staying in the light?

This morning while asking myself this very question, I recalled a passage from the Doctrine and Covenants about how early members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints were advised to address the plunder, rape, murder and persecution heaped upon them in the 1800’s. They were told to document EVERYTHING that was done to them. Every injustice was to be documented and carried to the government leaders of the time. Then, this is what they were supposed to do next…

“And also it is an imperative duty that we owe to all the rising generation, and to all the pure in heart—

Therefore, that we should waste and wear out our lives in bringing to light all the hidden things of darkness, wherein we know them; and they are truly manifest from heaven—

These should then be attended to with great earnestness. Let no man count them as small things;

Therefore, dearly beloved brethren, let us cheerfully do all things that lie in our power; and then may we stand still, with the utmost assurance, to see the salvation of God, and for his arm to be revealed.” (D&C 123:11,13-15, 17)

Cheerfully Do All Things That Lie In Our Power

Notice that phrase, “cheerfully do all things that lie in our power.” We don’t have to be fearful, sky-is-falling-fanatics. We don’t have to be angry, hateful or vindictive. Yet this instructional passage sounds like we can’t just sit back on our love and light cloud and pretend the evil is going to go away.

Here’s another example…

The Book of Mormon is a history of an ancient people who inhabited the Americas. Two prophets named Mormon and Moroni saw our day. Knowing the book would come forth in our modern era, they included stories that they felt would be applicable to us.

Moroni include a record of an ancient civilization called the Jaredites who were destroyed from within by a murderous “secret combination.” This secret combination infiltrated the Jaredite government and used secrecy to murder for power and gain. Here is the warning Moroni issued to us…

“Wherefore, O ye Gentiles (that’s us), it is wisdom in God that these things should be shown unto you, that thereby ye may repent of your sins, and suffer not that these murderous combinations shall get above you, which are built up to get power and gain—and the work, yea, even the work of destruction come upon you, yea, even the sword of the justice of the Eternal God shall fall upon you, to your overthrow and destruction if ye shall suffer these things to be.

Wherefore, the Lord commandeth you, when ye shall see these things come among you that ye shall awake to a sense of your awful situation, because of this secret combination which shall be among you; or wo be unto it, because of the blood of them who have been slain; for they cry from the dust for vengeance upon it, and also upon those who built it up.

For it cometh to pass that whoso buildeth it up seeketh to overthrow the freedom of all lands, nations, and countries; and it bringeth to pass the destruction of all people, for it is built up by the devil, who is the father of all lies; even that same liar who beguiled our first parents, yea, even that same liar who hath caused man to commit murder from the beginning; who hath hardened the hearts of men that they have murdered the prophets, and stoned them, and cast them out from the beginning.

Wherefore, I, Moroni, am commanded to write these things that evil may be done away, and that the time may come that Satan may have no power upon the hearts of the children of men, but that they may be persuaded to do good continually, that they may come unto the fountain of all righteousness and be saved. (Ether 8:23-26)

Awake to a Sense of your Awful Situation

It sounds to me like putting your head in the sand isn’t the way to go. It sounds like if we want evil to be done away, we need to “awaken to a sense of our awful situation” and see what’s “gotten above us” in our governments and in our leadership. We will recognize them by their agenda… “seeking to overthrow the freedom of all lands, nations, and countries and bringing to pass the destruction of all people.”

We can be cheerful as we do this. One might wonder how this is a cheerful task, but if we know we are standing in alignment with God, we can know that we are on the winning side. Because we know heavenly hosts are on our side we may “Fear not: for they that be with us are more than they that be with them.” (2 Kings 6:16)

So, I will continue to look for the good and strive to stay in the light, but as I do this I will continue to call a spade a spade. I will continue to waste and wear out my life in bringing to light the hidden works of darkness as I see them. My hope is that we, as a nation, may awaken to a sense of our awful situation. I am not good with a sword or other weapons. I’ll leave that to my husband, but I am good with the pen. And I will use it as long as I am able.

About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.

A Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins with Hope

A journey of a thousand miles begins with HOPE. But what if you’ve lost hope? You feel stuck, sad, maybe depressed. 6 years ago I had lost all hope in an important area of my life.

A Journey of a 1,000 Miles begins withI noticed some verses in the Bible about Jesus being the resurrection and the life. I caught hold on the idea that Jesus could resurrect this dead thing. It gave me HOPE… and with hope, I set my feet on a path that led to something beautiful and wonderful.

It didn’t happen in the way I expected or with the people or conditions that began my journey, but that dead area of my life came alive.. more beautiful, blossoming and wonderful than it ever had been before.

Let Jesus resurrect what is dead in your life… and let go of how He does it or what it’s going to look like in the end. Just know that it will be glorious!


About Marnie Pehrson

Marnie Pehrson is a best-selling author and marketing and social media consultant specializing in digital content creation and Facebook Ad Management. Get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.