The Secret Sauce to Viral Book Writing

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key ingredient to good writing

The key ingredient to good writing is vulnerability. Let yourself go. Put yourself out there. Get real, raw and relevant. You can always edit and reel it back in, but if you don’t allow yourself to get super vulnerable in your writing, you won’t have the secret sauce that makes truly remarkable books that connect with your reader and impact their lives.

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Living in the Light Doesn’t Mean Ignoring the Darkness

A wise man gave me some advice when I was about 16-17 years old. “Continue to look for the good,” he said. I have tried to do that throughout my life – to look for the good in people, to give them the benefit of the doubt, to surround myself with things that are uplifting and inspirational and steer clear of things that are degrading or depressing.

I’ve enjoyed this somewhat naive way of living for fifty years, but every once in a while the darkness rears its head, gets up in my face, and I’m required to deal with it in the best way I know how. Sometimes the darkness and evil I see in the world doesn’t directly affect me, and I’ve had a tendency to just stick my head in a “love and light cloud” and ignore it.

Living In The LightBut is this really what I should be doing? Can I look for the good and still be aware of the evil? The older I get the more I feel compelled to expose the darkness when I see it. Many of us with this “love and light” philosophy would prefer to stick our heads in the sand and pretend the evil and darkness doesn’t exist. We think if we focus on the good long enough, the light will overcome and dispel the darkness.

There may be quite a bit of truth to that. But I don’t believe we’re doing ourselves or our children any service by not addressing what is wrong in our lives or in our world.

Dinosaurs in living rooms eventually make messes that must be cleaned up.

I was pondering on this compelling urge I have to “call a spade a spade” when I see it – to point out “when the emperor is indeed wearing no clothes.” Primarily, when I see freedom being attacked, I feel an intense need to speak up.

How do I balance pointing out the bad with looking for the good and staying in the light?

This morning while asking myself this very question, I recalled a passage from the Doctrine and Covenants about how early members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints were advised to address the plunder, rape, murder and persecution heaped upon them in the 1800’s. They were told to document EVERYTHING that was done to them. Every injustice was to be documented and carried to the government leaders of the time. Then, this is what they were supposed to do next…

“And also it is an imperative duty that we owe to all the rising generation, and to all the pure in heart—

Therefore, that we should waste and wear out our lives in bringing to light all the hidden things of darkness, wherein we know them; and they are truly manifest from heaven—

These should then be attended to with great earnestness. Let no man count them as small things;

Therefore, dearly beloved brethren, let us cheerfully do all things that lie in our power; and then may we stand still, with the utmost assurance, to see the salvation of God, and for his arm to be revealed.” (D&C 123:11,13-15, 17)

Cheerfully Do All Things That Lie In Our Power

Notice that phrase, “cheerfully do all things that lie in our power.” We don’t have to be fearful, sky-is-falling-fanatics. We don’t have to be angry, hateful or vindictive. Yet this instructional passage sounds like we can’t just sit back on our love and light cloud and pretend the evil is going to go away.

Here’s another example…

The Book of Mormon is a history of an ancient people who inhabited the Americas. Two prophets named Mormon and Moroni saw our day. Knowing the book would come forth in our modern era, they included stories that they felt would be applicable to us.

Moroni include a record of an ancient civilization called the Jaredites who were destroyed from within by a murderous “secret combination.” This secret combination infiltrated the Jaredite government and used secrecy to murder for power and gain. Here is the warning Moroni issued to us…

“Wherefore, O ye Gentiles (that’s us), it is wisdom in God that these things should be shown unto you, that thereby ye may repent of your sins, and suffer not that these murderous combinations shall get above you, which are built up to get power and gain—and the work, yea, even the work of destruction come upon you, yea, even the sword of the justice of the Eternal God shall fall upon you, to your overthrow and destruction if ye shall suffer these things to be.

Wherefore, the Lord commandeth you, when ye shall see these things come among you that ye shall awake to a sense of your awful situation, because of this secret combination which shall be among you; or wo be unto it, because of the blood of them who have been slain; for they cry from the dust for vengeance upon it, and also upon those who built it up.

For it cometh to pass that whoso buildeth it up seeketh to overthrow the freedom of all lands, nations, and countries; and it bringeth to pass the destruction of all people, for it is built up by the devil, who is the father of all lies; even that same liar who beguiled our first parents, yea, even that same liar who hath caused man to commit murder from the beginning; who hath hardened the hearts of men that they have murdered the prophets, and stoned them, and cast them out from the beginning.

Wherefore, I, Moroni, am commanded to write these things that evil may be done away, and that the time may come that Satan may have no power upon the hearts of the children of men, but that they may be persuaded to do good continually, that they may come unto the fountain of all righteousness and be saved. (Ether 8:23-26)

Awake to a Sense of your Awful Situation

It sounds to me like putting your head in the sand isn’t the way to go. It sounds like if we want evil to be done away, we need to “awaken to a sense of our awful situation” and see what’s “gotten above us” in our governments and in our leadership. We will recognize them by their agenda… “seeking to overthrow the freedom of all lands, nations, and countries and bringing to pass the destruction of all people.”

We can be cheerful as we do this. One might wonder how this is a cheerful task, but if we know we are standing in alignment with God, we can know that we are on the winning side. Because we know heavenly hosts are on our side we may “Fear not: for they that be with us are more than they that be with them.” (2 Kings 6:16)

So, I will continue to look for the good and strive to stay in the light, but as I do this I will continue to call a spade a spade. I will continue to waste and wear out my life in bringing to light the hidden works of darkness as I see them. My hope is that we, as a nation, may awaken to a sense of our awful situation. I am not good with a sword or other weapons. I’ll leave that to my husband, but I am good with the pen. And I will use it as long as I am able.

What Individual Rights Really Mean

Have you noticed a quest to normalize every bizarre, sick behavior anyone might like to indulge in? Making huge hoopla and enacting regulations to protect whatever minuscule minority might initially like to engage in this behavior until curiosity seekers and social-hypochondriacs claim they too have a propensity for this popular “label”?

In my opinion, the agenda is to create more minorities. Minorities get special privileges and money in this country, if you hadn’t noticed. They also get to make everyone else walk around on eggshells.

Money and Power

Those who live for power and control now have their very own national playhouse of puppets. While we’re scurrying around adhering to mounds of nonsensical edicts and red tape to specially-service this now blown-way-out-of proportion-problem, their power is amassing for a time when it really matters.

“Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” (John Emerich Edward Dalberg Acton, first Baron Acton (1834–1902).)

The truth is we all have weaknesses, quirks, and oddities. Part of life is learning to work around them.

I used to be terrified of driving next to semis. Perhaps I should have located more people with that phobia and requested bureaucrats decree laws to protect our rights. (The US decrees laws these days; there’s no time to deal with the messy process of passing them constitutionally.)

Perhaps I should insist the government create new highways for semis lest I be offended by a truck.  Or at the least, create special lanes for them lest my fear be activated.

Oh, but wait, that’s not necessary for me anymore because I took responsibility for my own feelings and did something to deal with them in a healthy way. I can drive in a swarm of semis and not feel the least rise in blood pressure anymore.

THAT’s the very thing nobody seems to want to do– allow personal responsibility to kick in and people take care of their own problems. Instead we’ve created a monstrous government that micromanages our lives and relationships ad nauseam.

Where will it end?

It probably won’t until they’re rearranging the nations bathrooms.  Oh wait… They’re already doing that.

Here’s what “they” don’t want you to know…

The longer you live in victim land the more entitled you feel. The more entitled you feel, the less personal responsibility you take. Where there is no personal responsibility there can be no freedom.

And thus, victim land equals slavery… To your fears, your lack of action, your lack of looking for solutions, and to those who wish to keep you a victim so they might enslave you. The only way to freedom is through personal responsibility.

Always beware of those who want you to continue to feel you are a victim. They generally have another agenda than your happiness.

imageDay by day the establishment is handing out packages with brightly colored “individual rights” ribbons and “freedom of choice” gift wrap.  For the naive it looks like a brightly wrapped solution when in reality it is labeling group after group as victims who are ENTITLED to special treatment.  Entitlement undermines personal responsibility.

You can have no freedom without personal responsibility. The two CANNOT be separated.

So the next time you see the government rallying around some new “individual rights” cause, look hard at what new victim mentality they are creating; and know that with every piece of personal responsibility they destroy, the more power they gain over your life.

A Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins with Hope

A journey of a thousand miles begins with HOPE. But what if you’ve lost hope? You feel stuck, sad, maybe depressed. 6 years ago I had lost all hope in an important area of my life.

A Journey of a 1,000 Miles begins withI noticed some verses in the Bible about Jesus being the resurrection and the life. I caught hold on the idea that Jesus could resurrect this dead thing. It gave me HOPE… and with hope, I set my feet on a path that led to something beautiful and wonderful.

It didn’t happen in the way I expected or with the people or conditions that began my journey, but that dead area of my life came alive.. more beautiful, blossoming and wonderful than it ever had been before.

Let Jesus resurrect what is dead in your life… and let go of how He does it or what it’s going to look like in the end. Just know that it will be glorious!


Are we people or puppet? Dangers of Social Media.

People Or Puppets: Dangers of Social Media

I sat down next to my husband on the couch after dinner the other night. He was fiddling with his phone, and I leaned over to snuggle on him. I caught a glimpse of his Facebook feed. As he scrolled through posts — liking things, commenting on things — I noticed something significant about his feed. It looked a lot different than mine.

His was filled with political posts, whistle-blowing articles, cop videos, military-related items, funny rants, what’s happening in Europe, etc. My feed has a few political memes, but a lot of inspirational image quotes, comments from friends about their lives, pictures of babies, families and nature. There’s also a lot of entrepreneurial information.

I’ve known for some time that Facebook feeds you information based on what you like, share, and comment on. They give you more and more of whatever you say you want to see. No big deal – right?

But then last night my husband and I were having this world discussion; and we were both mystified as to how so many people could be so blind. The evidence for our viewpoint is overwhelming. Do people not think logically anymore? Are they so blind that they believe that evil is good and good is evil? How could they be so ignorant?

I was pondering on this this morning when the thought occurred to me that this “feeding people what they want to see” could be quite deceptive, even dangerous.

Those who want to see whistle-blowing articles or news reports that support their beliefs will see them. They feel they are doing a service to the world by sharing them in their Facebook feeds, but only those who care about those subjects will see them. It will be shown to people who agree with their viewpoint — or like to find people to argue with about that viewpoint.

We aren’t informing anyone other than those who want to be informed and probably already are. Conversely, those who hold opposing views receive evidence, viewpoints and news reports that support their perspective. They see us as deceived, blind and evil. Can we not see the evidence that they see? When they share, they too are sharing with people who largely believe what they believe.

The world, for each diverse segment, is a reflection of what that segment believes. Sure, we know the opposing viewpoint exists and is growing (or dying), but we think the average individual surely sees and agrees with what we believe.

We also could be missing key pieces of information that could round out our view of reality. Do we really know what’s happening in the world? Is our view of public opinion skewed? Will we be shocked to see who wins the next presidential election because surely the majority agrees with our viewpoint?

When it comes time to vote and people go to the polls, whichever side loses will be mystified at how stupid people could be. What’s wrong with the world? Don’t they see the evidence? Probably not!

Our world view is colored by the social media lens of our own viewpoints; and reality could be something completely different.

Are We People Or Puppets? The Dangers of Social MediaAnd here is the danger…

For those who determine truth by whatever the majority believes, truth becomes relative. There is no absolute truth because people are lacking core values and beliefs — underlying principles that govern their actions and help them easily determine what is good or bad or right wrong.

A country without a moral compass who determines good or bad based on public opinion (or political correctness) can be swayed in any direction the media wants it to go. Those who maintain strong convictions based on principles will be pacified and lulled away into believing that they are making a difference by sharing on social media, when no one is hearing but the people who already believe the way they believe (or who are dead set on arguing with their viewpoint).

Sometimes, I wonder if there isn’t some group of individuals sitting back and laughing at us all as if we’re puppets on a string. Hmmmm…

self sacrifice - ayn rand

Thrive Again: Recognize Whether You’re Being Used

In relationships, there are often those who feel entitled (USERS) and those who are so kind-hearted they have no clear boundaries and don’t know how to say “no.”

People who are lazy and feel the world owes them something tend to select relationship partners who are kind-hearted, hard-working, giving and boundary-less (OVER-PRODUCERS). In the end, the USER becomes helplessly enabled and the OVER-PRODUCER ends up used, crushed, and depleted.

Should an Over-Producer decide to break free of the abusive dynamic, the User will employ a variety of manipulative tactics — including guilt tripping the person they’re sucking dry, lying, shifting blame, making excuses, deflecting people’s focus off of them, and even violence (click here to learn more about their manipulative tactics).

What’s True for Individuals Is True of Nations

atlas shruggedThe same dynamic is going on at a national and global level. The Users are draining the Over-Producers dry. And if anyone dares say the Over-Producers are being used and should set boundaries that protect them from abuse, then the Users call them names, accuse them of phobias, racism, cruelty and a myriad of other “politically incorrect” vices.

Let’s face it, no tick wants to be removed from its host. It will always burrow in deeper when threatened with removal.

The sad part is when other kind-hearted (yet naive) Over-Producers haven’t awakened to the fact that they’re being used, and fight their fellow producers.

One of my favorite books on this subject is Ayn Rand’s Atlas Shrugged. It’s definitely worth the read if you struggle with being an Over-Producer. It changed my life, awakened me to how I was enabling others, and reading it was the first step to my recovery.

“If you saw Atlas, the giant who holds the world on his shoulders, if you saw that he stood, blood running down his chest, his knees buckling, his arms trembling but still trying to hold the world aloft with the last of his strength, and the greater his effort the heavier the world bore down upon his shoulders – What would you tell him?”

I…don’t know. What…could he do? What would you tell him?”

To shrug.”

Ayn Rand’s Atlas Shrugged.

It’s time for America to Shrug! Is it time for you to shrug too?


America, Put Your Oxygen Mask On (1)

Put Your Oxygen Mask On, America!

If a mom never took time for self-care and constantly spent her strength on her career, volunteering, saying “yes” to everything asked of her until she was depleted, ragged and worn and she had no time to enjoy her life or children, we’d tell her she’s killing herself. That she needs to put her oxygen mask on herself first.

America, setting boundaries is not xenophobicWhy do we expect our nation to

  • spend her strength in foreign wars,
  • pay to bail out every corporation,
  • take responsibility for other people’s refugees,
  • rebuild other nations,
  • spoil our children with freebies

when we’re drowning in debt and our elderly live on peanut butter? Our seniors are the ones who invested their lives’ earnings for a retirement, yet they have been stolen from and treated like second class citizens.

Many of our own people are homeless, barely scraping by, and those who protect us are paid peanuts and begrudged pay and medical care when they return home from fighting in these foreign wars.

What is true for an individual is true for a nation. It’s time to put the oxygen mask on ourselves. It’s not only logical, it’s the merciful thing to do.

Speaking as someone who has been physically depleted in recent months, when you get to that point, you’re no good to anyone. The best thing for everyone is for you to get healthy again, rest and focus on those close to home.

I’m getting so sick of people saying its callous, selfish, evil, racist or egotistical for America to focus on our own health as a nation instead of saving the world when we’re teetering on demise ourselves.

all trump has is votes

All Trump Has Is Votes

marnie and caleb at republican convention

My son Caleb and I served as County, District and State Delegates to the Republican Presidential election in 2012. We witnessed first-hand the corruption there.

Have you heard the GOP say, "All Trump Has Is Votes"?  What do they mean by that? Isn't that what a candidate needs? In this video I share my first-hand experience with the corruption inside the GOP and what the Republican Party REALLY means by their statement that "All Trump Has Is Votes."

The original delegate selection process, which was instrumental in Reagan's nomination, has now been changed as of 2012, making it more difficult (if not impossible) for outsiders like Reagan, Trump or Cruz to be nominated against GOP wishes.

I made this video because I feel it's important to share what I've seen. Most people don't know how the system works or how corrupt it can be. This is not a pro-Trump video. It's pro-fairness for any and all candidates who may not be part of the "Good ol' boys" network.


To watch the full Republican National Convention Teleprompter video clip, go here.

on target to reach a million twitter followers in 2 months

On Target to Reach a Million Twitter Followers in 2 Months


Have you ever wished you could reach lots more people than who are following you on Twitter, Youtube, Facebook, etc? A little less than two months ago I began using a free collaborative marketing service that lets me reach other people's Twitter  followers with my message.

For example, I have a little over 4,800 Twitter followers, but in less than 2 months I've reached an additional 800,000 Twitter followers with my posts! Best of all, I didn't pay a dime to do it! (If I had wanted to reach even more people faster, there is a paid option, but I didn't use that.)

In this brief video I show you step-by-step how to boost your Tweets to other people's followers through the power of collaboration using CoPromote.


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* Note that these are my results based on my connections and my Twitter followers. Your results will vary depending upon how many followers you have, how actively you use the service. how much you share the service with others, and how engaging your boosted posts are.


Thrive Again: Who You Are is Not What You Do

Who You Are Is Not What You Do

My friend Martina Muir says, “Who You Are Is Not What You’ve Done.” I’ve put a little twist on it… “Who you are is not what you do” either.

When you lose the ability to do what you’ve always done, it can create such a sense of loss that it strikes at the core of who you are as a person. You know what I mean — those things we do that define us:

  • the pianist who has lost a hand,
  • the football player who’s had one too many concussions, or
  • the elderly bus driver who’s judgment is impaired and can’t drive anymore.
  • the mom whose children are all grown and have moved away from home.
  • the entrepreneur who is suffering a health challenge that affects her ability to work.

When one talent becomes our identity and that talent is damaged or lost, it can make you feel worthless and as if you don’t hold any value anymore.

In this segment I talk about dealing with this kind of loss and how to reframe the situation to discover who you really are. If you’d like to work this through with someone and process the loss, click here.